[tinajay]

Just a quick question.

I am currently going out with this girl who before was going out with a married man. When we met, she told me the reason she was in the relationship with the married man was because the man was helping her financially with school and everything. According to her, she accepted my proposal because she want to have her life as the other man is married already. Looking at the responsibilities and knowing that I can take care of her school and living I told her to stop seeing the man if that's the only reason. I love this gel so much and want to marry her soon but I just found out that she just told the married man few days ago about me and our relationship which the man replied to as being happy for her but will now be the one to hide when am around which she did not reply to. I did not ask her but am worried and feeling hurt because I believe she will still cheat on me. What should I do? Somebody please help asap.

[redhed35]

I suppose that would depend on the circumstances around the break up,how long ago it was,and if it's a general conversation or flirting and suggestive.

Is she open about it?

Is she trying to hid it?

How did you find out?

If you could post more information,it would be easier for posters to give you a more comprehensive answer.

[redhed35]

You need to talk to her and findout what exactly her intentions are towards this man,and if she is going to continue seeing him.

Guessing won't get you the answers to need,talk to her.

If you think she is going to cheat on you,why hang around?

No trust no relationship,but before you take another step,talk to her and have an honest discussion about what is going on with the married guy.

Then with all the information,base your decision on that,not on guess work.

[tinajay]

She is not open about it and I found out by checking her phone and messages

[redhed35]

There should be an answer box to type in at the bottom of the screen.


If you have to snoop leave,if your having feelings of doubt and mistrust,leave.

If she's not happy with you and needs a sugar daddy as well,are you going to be happy sharing her?

Don't you deserve a relationship that's honest?

You started snooping because you were suspicious,now that you know,to confront her,your going to have to admit that,and ask her what's going on.

Too many red flags here to count.

My advice is,go your separate ways.

[talaniman]

Only a fool resorts to buying the love of another mans mistress. And yes she is another mans mistress, who pays for her attention and no doubt she will make you both pay. Can't blame her for having two willing fools who can afford her.

Sorry but only a fool would fall for her justifying what she is doing. She is nothing but a high priced prostitute, and if you can't see that then you deserve whatever she does to you, or whatever she charges you for her attention.

[tinajay]

Can I ever made her mine? What should I do because I love her so much and I don't want to loose her. Please help.