[JordanTKO]

Well I'm 26 years I've been dating this girl for about six months. From what is said to me my girlfriend is madly in love with me and our relationship with each other is great, I'm mature enough to pick my fights carefully and I was under the impression that we have an open and honest relationship, this girl goes above and beyond when it comes to accommodating me. Her previous relationship was with this order guy (35) who took their break up pretty hard, he embarrassed himself on several occasions, and I once had to have the police remove him from her property,(the night he find out she was seeing me). He backed off for awhile, but lately he's been professing his love to her, and I made the unfortunate mistake of reading an email that he sent to her( she was logged in on her computer, that she allows me to use when she's not here) I seen that he had sent a message and that she replied, without snooping through her stuff, curiosity got to me so I opened it. Basically what I got from the whole message was that this guy had no idea that she was dating me and that she was making him feel like a piece of crap for flaunting some other girl in her face. They unfortunately work for the same company and they run into each other, at their christmas party he brought a date and I stayed home, she told me she didn't want to cause a scene, she told me that she had a hard time seeing him with someone else, she assured me that she has no feelings for him, that is was just hard because she was with him and seeing him with someone else made her feel uneasy. She was completely open about when she could've easily lied, so I accepted it, but now that this guy has no knowledge of me, I feel like I'm being played. I love this girl, and I want this work, I know she hasn't cheated on me, but it seems like she might be confused, can anyone shed some light on this?

Thanks

[positiveparent]

If you've been dating this girl for 6 months and she's still in contact with her ex and he has no idea about you and her having been seeing each other, then I assume she's hiding something from either you, or you and this other guy.

Doesn't sound like she's being fully honest with you or this ex b/f.

Or perhaps she's keeping him in reserve in case you and she don't work out.

Or maybe she afraid to tell him she is with you, but then he's got a g/f you say.

I think you need to tell your g/f what you discovered and how, and go from there, otherwise you'll always be wondering if she's playing you or not, and I can't say Id blame you either, Time to come clean and ask her to do the same.

[crazychick56]

Well, for one, kuddos for not freaking out and giving her a chance to open up to you, and kuddos again for trusting her...
But here comes the BUT part...
You are right, she can easily lie to you sweet heart. Talk to her again, and find out if it would be possible for her to talk to this other guy and let him know that your with her or something or another so it doesn't feel like your being played or he doesn't know you exist. Talk to her again and this time YOU open up and say exactly what you just wrote up there. If she loves you like she says she does she will totally understand. And trust for now is all you have, so give yourself a big pat on the back for having it. [: