[bmw_325]

Met a girl a few weeks ago.. Hit it off pretty good, hung out a few times then she came down to my house for a few days. On the second night we hooked up and she said she really liked me and things like that. Talked almost every day for the next week and went out on a date twice. Both went good. Then she came down again last week and spent the night here and was the same as normal. I brought up a relationship to her after she left and she claims she doesn't want a relationship right now and that if I don't want to be friends with her anymore she'd just have to suck it up and deal with that. Confused on what to do next? I still like her a lot... thanks

[Cat1864]

What do you want? Is what she offering something you can live with without trying to make more out of it?

If you want more than she is willing to give (as in a committed relationship), letting her go and moving on would probably be in your (and her) best interest.

You can't make someone feel the same thing you do and trying just ends up hurting both people.

[talaniman]

Keep dating her and enjoy getting to know her. And give her the chance to know you.

What's the hurry to put a label on someone you have only know a few weeks, and had a few dates with? That makes no sense, because you can't possibly know her well enough to know what the heck your dealing with.

You will know better after 6 months, so will she, if it gets that far.

[Homegirl 50]

Do what she said she will do. "Suck it up and deal with it."
She doesn't sound like she's that in to you.

[bmw_325]

Yea I'll keep in touch with her but decided its probably not worth putting much more effort into it.

[Homegirl 50]

yea i'll keep in touch with her but decided its probably not worth putting much more effort into it.

That is smart thinking!

[Cat1864]

yea i'll keep in touch with her but decided its probably not worth putting much more effort into it.

At least, you learned a bit more about what you want in a partner and a relationship. Good luck in the future. :)