Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    Chelsea2306's Avatar
    Chelsea2306 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
    New Member
    		  
    #1

    Jun 13, 2010, 02:36 PM
    Get over a guy I work with quick
    Ok, I live in France, and have been working with this guy for the last 2 years, I can't get him out of my head, we share friends, and we have mutual parties, and we always end up in bed together, he's moving to Spain in 3 months, I thought I was over him is were friends, he's getting divorced froma girl who slept with his brother and is against all relationships, and wouldn't like me anyway, but I can't stop thinking about him and missing him! We get on 200% and are perfect but I can't have him, my terms up at my current job in January and I'll be moving to germany for 6-9 months but ahhh
    talaniman's Avatar
    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
    Expert
    		  
    #2

    Jun 13, 2010, 04:08 PM

    There is no quick fix here, but stop giving him free sex would help.
    rad0123's Avatar
    rad0123 Posts: 22, Reputation: 5
    New Member
    		  
    #3

    Jun 14, 2010, 02:48 AM

    Maybe once he moves away you can get over him because he won't be there all the time.

    If not, talk to him over email or something. Keep in contact and the feeling may become mutual.
    Jake2008's Avatar
    Jake2008 Posts: 6,721, Reputation: 3460
    Emotional Health Expert
    		  
    #4

    Jun 14, 2010, 03:05 AM
    It sounds like he's got a lot on his plate, and he's decided to settle for salad (you) instead of the whole five course dinner.

    He is not yet divorced, which can be a very complicated thing, especially if there are children involved. His wife slept with his brother, which is another huge issue to deal with.

    Add to that he is moving to another country in three months while all that is going on, and is it any wonder he doesn't want a relationship right now?

    It would be to your advantage to stop being so available for him sexually. Enjoy his company, while in the company of others, but cut short the hop into bed. If he has you when he wants you with no ties, why would he even bother trying for something more.

    I would keep in touch with him, and allow him the time to take care of his business without any pressure.

    If, when he is single, and recovered from his divorce, he will let you know, or contact you if he's interested.

    Until then, just be a good friend.
    I wish's Avatar
    I wish Posts: 5,296, Reputation: 2030
    Family & People Expert
    		  
    #5

    Jun 14, 2010, 07:29 AM

    Keep him out of your life. If he's not part of your life, then he can't affect you.
    Fr_Chuck's Avatar
    Fr_Chuck Posts: 81,301, Reputation: 7692
    Expert
    		  
    #6

    Jun 14, 2010, 07:35 AM

    Friends, but always end up in bed?? And he was married,

    But yes time and new interests.
Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions
 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

There's this guy at work. [ 21 Answers ]

I moved in with my boyfriend (Home Guy) too soon, I know this, but at the time it completely felt like the right thing to do, mostly. It wasn't really a problem until recently, there's a guy at work (Work Guy - how apt) that sit's right next to me and - although he's not much to look at - we...

Guy at work who looks my way sometimes... [ 2 Answers ]

I'm interning at an insurance company, this is my second week. I'm a headhunter, this guy is an insurance agent so sometimes he's in the office, sometimes not. Anyway first time I met him was last week at the door. He was staring at me for quite some time as I pushed it open for him and then rushed...

A Guy At Work! [ 14 Answers ]

I recently posted a question saying "i really like this guy at work!" People might of read it! Well, today I asked someone to ask him if He liked me or not and he said " 18 is a consideration!!" What does this mean? If I was 18 or when I'm 18?:confused:

A guy at work! [ 6 Answers ]

At where I work there is the guy that I really fancey! I want to tell him that I like him but I thought that he wouldn't like Me back and our working environment would feel weird and awkward! What should I do? Should I tell him and feel weird afterwards or not Tell him and regret it forever!

Will a quick calim deed work to reclaim a property? [ 2 Answers ]

I sold a house to Mike on March 7 for $240,000. He has only paid my $1000 instead of 2 payments of $1600 each. I have carried the note back in full w/ no down payment. He is moving and has listed the house for sale. I want it back in my name. Will a Quick Claim Deed work in this situation? ...

View more questions Search