[talaniman]

I think its time to be honest with yourself and take stock of yourself. Something you have been putting off for a very long time.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...nt-156346.html
I have watch you grow and am disappointed you have grown to THIS.

[mistyjane]

Go and get tested!
Stop cheating and tell the truth to your boyfriend.
Stop acting like a horny chick this is ridiculous.

[CarrotTalker]

Wow unprotected cheating sex? You are just asking for herpes.

How do you think his current girlfriend got pregnant?

[beth911]

Y does it say "threads merged" like what does that mean? Its all like weird and stuff

[Wondergirl]

You started more than one thread, so one of the moderators merged them (put them together into only ONE thread). That way it is easier for people to read the whole story.

Please write in good English with no chatspeak.

[beth911]

Now I am seeing another guy who doesn't want anything serious and my boyfriend mom seen me with him and asked who he was. And I don't know what to do I will never be happy with anyone. This guy would be perfect for me if he only wanted it to be serious.

[talaniman]

Come on girl, how can you go from bad to worst? What's it going to take to convince you to get your freaking act together?

[amicon]

Why are you doing this,to yourself,and others?

[beth911]

I don't know this guy from work I have so much in common with and the first few days we were talking he was so sweet I couldn't have ever even dreamed of someone being that nice to me. I mean it was beyond perfect. Then one day he texts me and says he can't do this anymore. And I don't know what to do. He won't say why or give me a reason or anything. We were still being friends but I just wish I could go back to that one day and stay there forever . I mean that was the happiest moment of my life. He seemed happy too. Very happy. Then BAM . Something happened. And I don't know what. He won't say all he says is ''cuz'' I thought ecverything was OK again yesterday but turns out it wasn't. I mean he's the guy I been dreamin of. Until he did this. If he would have justy stayed that way... I will never find someone like that. I didn't even think someone like that existed. My boyfriend don't want to kiss or hold hands or nothing. He don't want to go anywhere. Me and this guy just sat at the park and cuddled all night. He kissed me non stop all over. I could have stayed there forever. I just wish I was back to that night over and over again. I don't know what to do. I mean that's what I need in life to be happy and I can't find that anywhere.

[talaniman]

That's because your looking in the wrong place for what you want. Making out with a coworker was just a temporary quick fix to your problems. Just like getting with this boyfriend was at such and early age. That's your problem, you no longer want to be with him, so instead of taking the hard steps to leave and find your happiness, you run to the arms of another who is available, whom you think can do what you need, only he wasn't the one to stay and do it for you as long as you wanted it.

You are on a dangerous path in your life, and the easy way out is not the best. In all this you have neglect to do the things that will make you happy over the long term, and settled for the easy way out, which has you cheating, instead of solving your real problem, your relationship.

I highly suggest you get to talking with him about your unhappiness and see if changes can be made, so you can be happy. If not, this will only get worse, and the relationship will be destroyed.

[friend4u178]

idk this guy from work i have so much in common with and the first few days we were talking he was so sweet i couldnt have ever even dreamed of someone being that nice to me. i mean it was beyond perfect. then one day he txts me and says he can't do this anymore. and i dont know what to do. he wont say why or give me a reason

**Harshness warning**


I'll tell you why he scooted , he knew he could have you when he wanted , even though you were spoken for.

So why would he get with someone permantly who cheats on her BF?? That could be him next.

Get the picture? so you need to look at your moral standards because otherwise no worthy guy is ever going to take you as serious Relationship material.

[beth911]

It wasn't like this at all when I started talking to him. It was like he didn't even care about sex. That was all on me. Its like I had everything I ever wanted and then just lost it. He don't want nothing to do with me and now he is moving out of state. So I don't even want to try to be with him. I just want to find someone who is the person that I thought was him. That is what I need in life and who I need to be with. I'm worried I won't find them though. I felt so safe around him and so calm. Everything seemed better than perfect. I want my life to stay like that. I keep trying to just forget about it al but I keep repeating the memories OVER AND OVER it won't stop. It hurts so bad. I want what I thought I had. That's what I always dreamed of, always pictured... it came true for a moment then I lost it. Now all I do is take sleeping pills and sleep my life away. I'm doing better though haven't had any today. Almost wrecked though thinking of it all.
We just laid in the park and cuddled all night looking up at the stars and he would kiss me non stop over and over again. That's what I just got to have and I can't have it. I'm worried I never will. And if I don't then what's the point of living anyway? Because that's everything to me

[amicon]

Are you seeing a councilor?

I would seriously advice you to talk this through with a professional.

[beth911]

Its like I came close as I ever came to having what I always dreamed of and now I lost all hope. I don't think I will ever have it and that is my biggest dream in life. I want that more than I would want to be a millionaire. He tried hookin me up with another guy last night. One of his friends. His friend told me he is trying to test me to see if I'm going to do what I say ill do because he don't know if he can trust me or not. I was told if I had sex with this guy I don't know (his friend) he would give me $300 and then the guy that I was wanting to be with said if I do that that he would be with me. Basically he just trying to sell me out. I wouldn't do it though. I picked the guy up and went for a ride down a bunch of roads I don't know at 2 am scared to death because I never met this guy but they were supposed to both come with but he backed out ant left me with a stranger. I'm lucky I didn't get raped or killed I guess. I only went hoping I could see him again. Now he is going to be moving out of state soon. I can't stop thinking of how much fun everything was at first. Then I find out by his sister that he had a kid out there somewhere and I don't know. I want who I thought he was at first. I want to keep reliving that night over and over again. I don't care who it is with as long as I feel that same way again. I don't want that feeling to ever go away. So calm. So fearless and happy. Not a care in the world. It was all perfect. I got to have that and I've came this close to it and lost it now I'm worried ill never have it and if I do find it I won't feel the same because I will just think back to the last time I felt that way and look at how it turned out

[Clough]

Do you have a job, beth911?

Some of us have been working with you probably several years on this site.

Please answer my question?

[beth911]

So I have not told him about all of the other guys I was with. Ijust told him about one of them that I did not do anythign with. I can't tell him about the ones that I did do stuff with because it would be like me just pulling a trigger and killing him./ is it wrong that I don't tell him? That is the only thing stopping me is that I cannot have him hurt like that and I know I could never let it hap-pen again. It eats me away especially at night when I try to sleep. It would be a relief for me to just telll him and not have it bottled up anymore or wonder how or when I should tell him. I always ask myself ''what about now'' and I think 'no I can't hurt him' what should I do or say? I mean this is driving me crazy. I can't tell him. I know he will still stay with me because that's just how he is. I know he loves me so much and he would stay and just be so hurt and depressed all the time. I know I can't even think to do this to us again. Feeling how I feel now. If its not going to happen again and I don't want to hurt him, should I not say anything? I know he needs to know but I don't know what I should do or say. How to bring it up. I don't know. I just can't do it. I know I cant. I just need to know its OK. I know its not OK. I need to think it is OK as long as it doesn't happen again. I wish that I could just forget it all ever happened and that it was all a dream but I know its not. I regret it so much and it is just really badly just eating away at me./ I can't sleep and I just feel like deep inside he knows something is up and he even says he feels like imnot tellling him everything and I told him so many times that I did tell him all there was to tell. And I keep telling myself OK I just won't lie no more and pretend it all never happened. But of course by keeping this from him I am still lying big time. I know he will just die if I tell him. So what should I do? It won't hurt if he don't know

[Wondergirl]

i know its not ok.

No, it's not okay.

You are being eaten up with guilt. Is there a counselor or a minister you can talk with a couple of times about this and figure out what to do?

[beth911]

I don't know of anyone. I don't know what to do. I need help so bad. I can't afford nothing right now.

[Wondergirl]

i dont know of anyone. i dont know what to do. i need help so bad. i can't afford nothing right now.

A priest or a minister? That would be free. Can you still drive? Do you have a car or use of one?

[beth911]

Now my fiancée now knows and I'm not aloud to have my olld friends is this normal? I'm not aloud to smoke also.