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kinkytara · May 15, 2010, 09:46 AM

My boyfriend keeps chatting to girls behind my back what can I do? And he wants to move out with me and also we have a holiday booked I need some advise :(

I'm not sure what to do with my relationship if anyone could give me some adives please tell me! Thanks

talaniman · May 16, 2010, 07:05 AM

Move out? Like are you living together, or move in with you? Confused as to what you mean, and the nature of his chats?

You can always tell him you are not comfortable with his behavior, and if he doesn't care then what's the point of going on holiday, or even staying with some one that doesn't care how you feel??

Devorameira · May 16, 2010, 08:28 AM

Please clarify if he lives with you and is moving out or if he is planning on moving in?? :confused:

Healthy relationships are based on trust and respect. If he is contacting girls behind your back, you need to get rid of him. A fellow that really loves you won't be sneaking around doing things that he knows hurts you and that you disapprove of.

kinkytara · May 16, 2010, 09:36 AM

But I love this guy and I don't want to lose him all I want him to do is stop the talking to other girls. Why would he ask me to move out or even go on holiday? Guys wouldn't do that if they didn't want to be with there girlfriend, but he tells me its fun! What can I say to him to stop him from doing it?

Devorameira · May 16, 2010, 09:51 AM

I don't know why he's asked you to move out and go on a holiday with him. He obviously cares about you, but that doesn't necessarily make him trustworthy.

I realize that you care for him, but you can't make him do anything.
You can tell him how much his behavior upsets you and ask him to stop, but if he still won't stop then you either have to accept it or look toward a breakup.

Jlesnik33 · May 16, 2010, 09:55 AM

Just tell him that it makes you feel uncomfortable. If he isn't making a pass at them, or hitting the sheets with them, I feel you have nothing to worry about.

How old are you guys?

kinkytara · May 16, 2010, 10:04 AM

I don't think he will ever tell me the truth! But when you love someone its hard to let go! I don't know what to say to him, I'm scared we will argue through it.

I'm 20 he's 23.

talaniman · May 16, 2010, 10:27 AM

You seem to care a lot more for him than he cares for you, so as long as you put up with his behavior, you will get more of it.

He will never respect you if you do not respect yourself, and we maybe seeing your whole problem with this situation. You let him treat you any way he wants but ask for no respect, and get NONE from him.

You already are insecure and really don't trust him for the truth. Why keep letting him do it?

For sure until you stand up for yourself, nothing will change. Hey he is already moving out! Does that sound like he cares? Or wants freedom to be with whomever he wants and your just another piece of easy a$$ to him.