[LUVMUFN25]

I've been with my boyfriend now for ten months and we have the best relationship... I think it's been going fairly well because we communicate good... I mean we have to because were currently in a long distance relationship and in between visits that's pretty much all we have... But Ive noticed that recently since Ive come off the latest visit that his time is more occupied... he's always tired... he's working late... I do know that he spreads himself thin more so than most but it's never been a problem in our relationship... it frustrates me that I have no idea what's going on and it's not like I can confront him or anything... im not talking like one or two days... I mean its been a full week since I've really heard his voice... and I hate to think it was something "else" that could be keeping us apart... I need advice so when I do eventually talk with him I would be able to point out the issues "sanely" instead of coming off like some... help...

[Jake2008]

It's not easy having a long distance relationship, and I agree, communication has to be good.

Have you two discussed the future, in that is he planning to move to where you are, or are you planning to move? I would think it would be hard to maintain a long distance without a plan in place to move closer to each other.

He may seem distant just because he is busy as you said. But, the mind can stray into the imagination when you start thinking what the 'meaning' could be.

If the distance is starting to grow between you, and I don't mean by the miles alone, then plan to have a good face to face talk to him about where the relationship is going. You will be able to tell by what he says if he's just been busy and worn out, or if he's worried about the future with you, etc. Always better out in the open in person, especially since you both communcate well.

Until then, try not to jump to any conclusions, he could be just as committed as he's always been.

[talaniman]

Through some honest communications you can not only define where this is going and set some ground rules to connecting that you both can agree on. Like calling every few days and when you make time for each other. If you can't then you hardly have a relationship, and not communicating, especially with the distance between you, will drive one of you pretty crazy wondering what the other one is up to.

Why assume, and presume, when you can ask, and suggest solutions to issues that arise?