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DAUNTLESS · Apr 30, 2010, 02:20 AM

This happened to my friend. He is in love with a girl. They have been friends for almost two years. He is ready to do anything for her. But the twist in the tale is that she is already committed. He knows all about her. But he refuses to forget her or even think of any other girl. Should I advice him to give her up? Is his love for the girl sensible at all?

He also fears such a good friendship will break if she comes to know about his unsaid love.

redhed35 · Apr 30, 2010, 02:28 AM

If she is already in a relationship there is nothing he can do.

She is not available.

He can love her all he wants from afar,but what a waste of time and heart.

I would suggest he avoids seeing her,can get busy putting the same amount of energy into his own life.

Join the gym,throw himself into work or school,make a conscious effort NOT to entertain thoughts and romantic notions of them being together.

Larken85 · Apr 30, 2010, 04:01 AM

I second that. He needs to get his head out of the clouds and have a check with reality. The girl is not his and at least for the time being will not be his. He needs to step back. Also if he is such a good friend with her then he should not be falling for her, it will only ruin the friendship unless there is a very clean break up with little bitterness (doesn't usually happen that way in my expierence).

He needs to find another girl to blush over for the time being. You need to tell him to step back, later on in life the guy isn't going to be happy knowing he was ever "that guy."

I wish · Apr 30, 2010, 07:23 AM

If it took him 2 years to gain enough courage, then I'm sure that he can wait until she's single again. Unfortunately, we have no idea if and when she would be single. There isn't an easy way out of this situation, but whatever he decides to do, make sure he's ready to face the consequences of his actions.

Check out this thread to see the various consequences: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...ip-463250.html

talaniman · Apr 30, 2010, 11:38 AM

Some times all a friend can do is talk, advise, and wait with band aids, and aspirin, while our friends run full speed, and head first into a brick wall.

Devorameira · Apr 30, 2010, 11:51 AM

Yup - you need to encourage him to forget about her.

She's already taken, so he'd only be heading for heartache and a possible broken nose when her boyfriend finds out.