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kplush · Apr 28, 2010, 12:57 PM

I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. We were great friend before and are even better together. Exams are coming up and he has been partying to relieve stress. Except, he 9/10 times goes with his friends and doesn't even think to invite me. We rarely talk, unless we are in person. I'm not big on the technology, texting 24/7 scene. He has some girl friends that he usually parties with as well as his male friends. I get jealous because then I'm at home, just doing nothing. I hang out with my friend too, it just seems that he values partying and drinking as the only way to "have good fun". I understand partying for him is fun, but he'll choose partying over hanging out with me. We see each other about once or twice a week. Which is fine, I am just jealous that all his friends and girl friends see him more than I do. Am I crazy for being upset that he chooses partying every weekend over hanging out? And I understand that it is not healthy to talk 24/7 but is a simple goodmorning, goodnight or mid afternoon text too much to ask for? I've tried talking to him about all of this, but he says he'd rather drop it than "argue". He makes plans to go meet one of his girl friends new puppy but yet won't make dinner plans with me until last mintue. And for that matter, I can't for the life of me get him to wear nice pants when we eat out. I always pay because we are in college and I am the only one with a job, but he always wears dirty jeans and a plain black tshirt. And we usually go to nice places, and then I feel out of place because I'm the only one dressed up nice, with a grungy looking boyfriend. And I always cook for him, and he never says thank you. For once, I'd like to be taken care of I always take care of him and go above and beyond for him and get nothing literary nothing in return. No flowers, no nothing.

Thanks

jmw0713 · Apr 28, 2010, 01:57 PM

Lay down the law. Tell him what you want from him. If he doesn't shape up and meet your standards, in the least, kick is butt to the curb.

You need to communicate these feelings to him. Only after you do that will you be able to make an educated decision on what to do next.

amicon · Apr 28, 2010, 10:57 PM

It seems he can't even be bothered to discuss what,to you,and I agree,are real problems.

When there is no communication,the relationship is not functioning.

I would walk away and get on with my life.

talaniman · Apr 28, 2010, 11:20 PM

No communications, no relationship. If your not happy with the guy or his ways why are you with him? If you can't talk to him, and he listen, what's the point and despite how great you said things were to start your post, clearly they are not, so tell him so, and start getting a life you enjoy without him.

Devorameira · Apr 29, 2010, 06:21 AM

Why in the world are you even seeing him?

Lets see:

- He'd rather party than spend time with you.

- He embarrasses you when you do get him to go out.

- He never pays for anything.

What I really missed hearing you say is anything at all positive about him or mention of anything positive that he does for you.

I think you know the answer - just move on and find someone who really cares and wants to spend time with you. Someone with a job!