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carolinaGirl016 · Apr 20, 2010, 09:25 PM

I'm not that old, I'm still a teenager. My friend that I have a crush on I think has a crush on me too but I can't tell. I have to sit by him everyday and I have a couple of classes with him. We are both on the track team and other things. I have had a couple of random people come up to us when we are walking and ask if we are going out and when I tell them we aren't they say we would be cute together. After people tell us that he gets all quiet and won't talk to me... does that mean he likes me or hates the topic? I thought him and I were just friends but as I got to know him I started to like him more and more. My other friends say that he flirts with me and that they think he likes me but I just ignore them and deny it all because I don't want to give it away that I like him... so how do I get past friendship with him and get him to finally ask me out? I don't care for any negative posts I just need a little bit of help :D

tickle · Apr 21, 2010, 03:56 AM

Ask him out

Tick

JoeCanada76 · Apr 21, 2010, 03:59 AM

Exactly what the above answer stated.

My vote number 2, ASK HIM OUT.

carolinaGirl016 · Apr 21, 2010, 04:30 PM

I hate asking guys out... its so weird. I rather have him ask me out :\ its so complicated

Homegirl 50 · Apr 21, 2010, 04:36 PM

Well if you won't ask him, you'll have to wait for him to ask you, but a closed mouth does not get fed.

Does he know that you like him? Have you had any conversations with him?

Homegirl 50 · Apr 21, 2010, 04:38 PM

Originally Posted by carolinaGirl016

i hate asking guys out... its so weird. i rather have him ask me out :\ its so complicated

It's really not that complicated.
You go up to him strike up a conversation. If it is a good one, get his phone number or give him yours. You guys talk on the phone, or text and then sooner or later going out is going to come up.
It all has to start somewhere.
How old are the two of you?

carolinaGirl016 · Apr 21, 2010, 04:45 PM

I talk to him all the time kind of. But its getting less and less kind of. I think he kind of knows I like him because I'm always there for him and stuff like that. We are both 15 about to turn 16. We talk non-stop in classes until we get in trouble or until we have to do something. Should I get one of my friends to ask him if he likes me or should I just let it play out? I don't want to ask him because I don't want to ruin our friendship. I hang out with his sister and I don't know if I should ask her if she knows who he likes because I don't want to give it away that I like him so she can tell him and it be awkward

Homegirl 50 · Apr 21, 2010, 05:02 PM

I'm much older than you, so me , I would just ask him out. But if you have a friend who can get a feel for how he feels about you, then go for it.
But I think I is best to just let your feelings known. Just say, you want to go out sometime? He'll either say yes or no. He'll probably say sure!

carolinaGirl016 · Apr 21, 2010, 05:06 PM

Thanks... I just don't want to ruin our friendship. I never ask guys out though . Is there a way I can get him to show/tell that he likes me with out me or my friends asking him?

Homegirl 50 · Apr 21, 2010, 05:18 PM

NO!
He talks to you, you guys enjoy talking to each other, what do you think that means?

You guys can be friends and talk and go out as friends. Ask him if he'd like to go out sometime as friends see what he says.

JoeCanada76 · Apr 21, 2010, 06:09 PM

Whether you hate to ask a guy out or not, maybe that is what your going to have to do. Or your going to be single and alone for the rest of your life.

It is both ways now it is not always the guy that asks the girl out. Even as friends.

carolinaGirl016 · Apr 22, 2010, 08:48 PM

I know I'm being really resistant but what should I do to get him to like me more or ask me out already? When I went out with his friend in the beginning of the year he was always near me and talk to me all the time, he's still like that but I want to know if he still likes me?

carolinaGirl016 · Apr 22, 2010, 08:49 PM

I know I'm being really resistant but what should I do to get him to like me more or ask me out already? When I went out with his friend in the beginning of the year he was always near me and talk to me all the time, he's still like that but I want to know if he still likes me

tickle · Apr 23, 2010, 03:34 AM

You can't make him ask you out. There isn't anything you can do if you don't understand the situation the way it is right now. You can't make him like you more. Could be you are not reading the signals he is giving you, and he just want to be friends.

If you can't ask him what you want to know or do, then I would forget it.

Tick

Larken85 · Apr 23, 2010, 04:52 AM

You ask tell him this.

"Wouldn't it be funny if we ended up going out? What would people say?"

He would respond something like this, "That would be funny and they'd probably say____"

To which you reply, "Funny, you think?" Give him time to studder around his words and feel all embarrassed and then say, "oh..." get quiet here and turn red faced (shy).

He has never known you to be shy, this would instantly tell him you like him like that, and you wouldn't have to tell him exactly how you feel. If he likes you like that then he will explore those feelings further and ask you out. (in theory)

JudyKayTee · Apr 23, 2010, 06:45 AM

Originally Posted by Larken85

You ask tell him this.

"Wouldn't it be funny if we ended up going out? What would people say?"

He would respond something like this, "That would be funny and they'd probably say____"

To which you reply, "Funny, you think?" Give him time to studder around his words and feel all embarrassed and then say, "oh..." get quiet here and turn red faced (shy).

He has never known you to be shy, this would instantly tell him you like him like that, and you wouldn't have to tell him exactly how you feel. If he likes you like that then he will explore those feelings further and ask you out. (in theory)

I have no idea where any of this "advice" comes from.

Your advice is based on playing games, making up dialogue. If OP wants to ask him out, that's what she does. She asks if he would like to go to X on whatever day/night. He says yes or no.

You start with game playing, you end with game playing and you get back exactly what you hand out.

tickle · Apr 23, 2010, 06:56 AM

I have a suspicion that the OP and b/f are very young and inexperienced. Dancing around each other because neither one has the maturity to handle this budding relationship. Its my guess it will 'die on the vine' before anything comes of it. That's the way it works when you are young, until you find out what communicating is all about.

Larken's take, I think, was a misinterpretation of the maturity of each person.

Tick

Homegirl 50 · Apr 23, 2010, 07:10 AM

You cannot make someone like you or ask you out.
I'm assuming you both are young and shy, so he will either get up the nerve or he won't and you will either get up the nerve or you won't.
As you get older, another person will come along and you will feel strongly enough about that person to ask him or he you.
It's called growth.

JudyKayTee · Apr 23, 2010, 09:22 AM

Originally Posted by tickle

I have a suspicion that the OP and b/f are very young and inexperienced. Dancing around each other because neither one has the maturity to handle this budding relationship. Its my guess it will 'die on the vine' before anything comes of it. Thats the way it works when you are young, until you find out what communicating is all about.

Larken's take, I think, was a misinterpretation of the maturity of each person.

tick

Maybe - but I find the "dancing around" (as you well put it) is a disaster when it comes to dating at any age. I find that making up scenarios in your head is the recipe for disaster (I mean, the "I'll say this and you'll say that" kind of stuff. It NEVER seems to work out that way.)

But, then, we all know I tell it like I see it!

smartblondy · May 5, 2012, 01:03 PM

Hide it play truth and ask him who if he had to go out with someone who would it be worked for me :)