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oneinamillion054 · Apr 22, 2010, 07:37 PM

What kind of difficult things do you think a mix child (black dad, white mom) faces?
My boyfriend is light black skinned and I am pale white, if we ever were to have children would they face difficulties with racial discrimination or anything like that? And would they not have a feeling of self identity? Everyone makes a big deal about this but I'm not sure how much trouble they would face in today's world.

oneinamillion054 · Apr 22, 2010, 08:01 PM

What kind of difficult things do you think a mix child (black dad, white mom) faces? Do you think even in today's world with mix couples becoming more popular that the children would face difficulties? Would they be treated differently or feel like they don't have a feeling of self, or have physchological problems because of it. I personally don't think it's the big of deal, but I am ignorant to many things.

Fr_Chuck · Apr 22, 2010, 08:21 PM

It can be hard, also depends on how they look,
If the medium skin tone, and mixed features to the black community ( where to be honest I have found more prejudice) at least in TN and GA. But at younger ages, the kids all play and no one cares, it is not till they get older or treated by older kids or adults that it really comes into play.

Expect the parents to be asked ( are you going to raise him white or black) if I hear that once I heard it a 100 times.

Also if the child is a lot different color than one parent, and that parent has the child out, they ask the parent, is he "yours"

That all effects how a child feels about thierself.

hheath541 · Apr 22, 2010, 08:29 PM

I knew a little girl for awhile. She had a white mom and a black dad. She was just the sweetest, prettiest little thing. She went around telling everyone she was 'mixed up.'

Some older kids had made fun of her for being mixed when she was younger. She asked her mom what they meant, and she told her that she was a mix of her mom and dad's love, so she came out a mix of their skin colors, too. Her 6 year old brain translated that into her being 'mixed up' and she proudly told everyone that she was.

As long as the kids know they're loved, I think that's all that really matters.

oneinamillion054 · Apr 22, 2010, 09:33 PM

Thanks!
I think love is all that matters anyway, but I was just wondering. I know some people can be harsh.

Wondergirl · Apr 22, 2010, 09:42 PM

Studies have found that the best-looking people on the planet are the ones of mixed race.

Yes, finding humorous ways around others' negative comments and making sure the child feels loved are very important.

Lucky098 · Apr 23, 2010, 04:07 PM

I think its in how you raise them. I think if you have kids, imprint in them of self respect, truthfulness and love. If they can respect themselves, nothing will stand in their way.

If you are paranoid about this, then that paranoia is going to rub off on them and they're going to feel self-conscience and confused.

As long as you imprint in them self pride, then I don't see any problems.

Any child can be embarrassed of their own race. Its all on how you raise them.

DoulaLC · Apr 24, 2010, 04:20 PM

I have three grandchildren from my stepdaughter that are of a mixed race and my youngest daughter has been dating a black young man for the last two years. They are quite serious and I wouldn't be surprised if they decided to marry at some point.

Chances are quite good children of mixed race will experience some comments at some point... this can often depend on where you live and what the prevailing attitudes are in your area. But, as Lucky mentioned, how you raise them, including how you address these comments when they do arise, will have a big impact on how they not only react to people who treat them differently, but also to their own self-perception. Insensitive people will find anything to be rude about... skin color, or being of a mixed race, is just one possibility.

Providing children with a strong sense of self and family, and offering support go a long way in helping them deal with any type of adversity they may encounter regardless of skin color.

Devorameira · Apr 27, 2010, 02:12 PM

I personally think the world has become much less concerned with mixed raced marriages and biracial children. It's better now than ever before.

There will always be a few people out there (mainly cruel kids) that will make remarks, but then again those same people will tease a biracial child, a skinny child, a homely child, or a poor one.

As others have pointed out, you just need to raise your children to have self confidence and self pride and everything will work out fine.