[dcroselle]

Is cold feet normal?

[JudyKayTee]

I would say not - I was nervous but I didn't have cold feet.

If I had second thoughts I would not have married.

How serious are your concerns?

[dcroselle]

Well, my fiancé and I have been together for almost 8 yrs and I told him that I think it's about time that we move forward or we need to reevaluate and lo and behold, he got me the ring. That was in December and we planned the wedding for this October. I thought all is fine until he started acting strange. So I don't know if it's cold feet since every time I ask him, he never wants to talk about it. I figured I'd give him some space to think then he'll be fine for a few days and then back to the same slump. I'm just getting tired of guessing what's going on. I mean, if he don't want to get married, then just tell me. Should I be worried?

[Wondergirl]

Should I be worried?

If you two got married, what would he get from you and the relationship that he isn't getting now?

[dcroselle]

So does that mean that we shouldn't get married?

[Wondergirl]

so does that mean that we shouldn't get married?

What's the answer to my question?

[Gemini54]

If you're getting married, then you need to talk about what's going on.

If you think he's getting cold feel, why don't you have a conversation about it?

Ask him. It's the only way you'll know.