[talaniman]

Kit is right, its not pity, its for his own purpose.

In man lingo-he is just checking his traps. That's what hunters do. I wouldn't be surprised if he has many traps to check, and you're just one.

Sorry, but don't give in, stay with NC!

[Kitkat22]

Kit is right, its not pity, its for his own purpose.

In man lingo-he is just checking his traps. Thats what hunters do. I wouldn't be surprised if he has many traps to check, and you're just one.

Sorry, but don't give in, stay with NC!!

Very well said Talaniman... I can't add anything to your answer. You said it all:)

[If_only]

So after not responding to my ex's call or two texts for 5 days, today I texted him saying "whats up." YES I know I was supposed to maintain the NC rule and I was for the past month almost and throughout that month I realized a lot and got a better understandings of things but something inside me was just telling me to do it. I didn't do it in hopes of us getting back together, and yes it sounds pretty naïve because it's not like I HAVE to be friends with him but I didn't want to just end it for good in that way. Overall he's a nice guy, he was mean and took me for granted sometimes I admit that but he wasn't SO bad. And plus my main purpose was to show him the real me which I never really got a chance to do throughout the relationship because I got too "clingy" and always chased after him but that's really not me. I got carried away and I know what I did was wrong and what caused him to be so distant.

Our conversation went pretty OK. I texted him and he said "oh wow look who is it." I asked how he's been and he did the same. We exchanged like two texts each after that and then he said "worktime ill talk to you later" and I left it at that. Usually I'd go crazy texting but this time I didn't even feel like saying anything. I basically treated him like I'd treat any of my other friends. So after a few hours he asked me how my parents were doing and how school was going and I answered. Again maybe 5 6 texts were exchanged and I let the conversation stop at his last text. Since I'm planning on going to med school, he said you still have like 10 years ahead of you go go and I left it at that. I really don't plan on texting him that much because I've learned. At the same time I didn't forget what he did in the past but I'm just trying to play it cool. I think deep inside I realized I don't like him AS much as I did before even though a month away isn't that much.

I know I didn't listen to you guys and I'm sorry for that because you guys really were there for me when I was venting and I appreciate that and for the long run maybe this decision I made isn't all that great for me but I really liked this guy and shared a lot of memories with him for me to walk away in a cold manner. I didn't want us to bump into each other and have any kind of animosity amongst us.

Now I have another question, do you guys think he will ask to meet me? And how should I act towards him? I respond to his texts after some time so I don't look like I'm waiting for him which I really am not; I'm a full time student so I'm in school mostly. Also he hasn't brought up adding me back on BBM. When I last emailed him I told him I deleted his bbm pin so IF he asks to add me I will just say I don't have your pin?

P.S my birthday is coming up and I really want to know if he even remembers. And kitkat, I forgot to answer you before, I blocked him on fb back in December from my account and his friends also so no one can see any of my comments that were once made on his pics/wall. I don't want to be on his fb, I have no interest left in that. If anything goes wrong again, I know I have to go NC again and just cut him out once again and stick to it. I just wasn't OK with the hard feelings with had going on.

[Kitkat22]

... If he doesn't treat you well on any other day, don't expect him to treat you any different on your birthday. Sorry but it's true.