[myagony1234]

I feel so bad you are suffering so much, and I am here again to help.
Your husband seems way confused between dead-past memory and reality, and it impacts your marriage tremendously.
It seems to me, he is overly playing self-pity game like a child, and you are playing sorry wife role accordingly, and it makes your marriage worse as time goes by, and you guys are in worst loop without healing. That's why I suggested having a mediator or marriage counselor. It seems you have not tried for some reason. I can see you suffered enough.

You guys do not have real communication, so you guys cannot move on. Your husband's cold shoulder, silence and divorce threatening treatment will not resolve this issue at all, you have no idea how to handle it but just take it and suffer. It is bad.

You are not the problem of this marriage. He is. He is victimizing himself, baby and mostly you. Be strong, stand up for yourself, baby, and him, fight for your happy marriage. Crying over his torturing will not do anything for you.

Sit down with him today not tomorrow, look into his eyes (I always do when I need to talk sincerely), talk honest what has happened, and tell him you are willing to devote yourself to make your husband and baby for the rest of life, and let's move on together for baby VERBALLY & CLEARLY.
This is what I will say if I am in your position.
“I am sorry, but you need to stop this, and I cannot let you divorce me. You have punished me enough. I got your message VERY clearly. If I have time machine, I go back to past, lock myself in cave, and would not talk to anyone before I met you. But I cannot do it. So, I will do my best to make it up to you, and make you happy. Let's stop here. We can build the happiest marriage from here with our baby. We are supposed to be together for the rest of lives. Love me just like you promised me as husband as you promised. I will be your best wife ever. Divorce is not option. Period.”

You are the mother of his baby, and he has life long obligation to love & respect you as wife. That is what the marriage about. It is JUST SILLY & CHILDISH he is sabotaging the whole marriage due to the insignificant past, which happened long before marriage. You need to be strong for yourself and your confused husband. He needs to be reasonable.

I have to assume that dating someone is not acceptable in your culture. So as divorce. Divorce is not acceptable in your culture. He has clearly double standard, confused head, and no direction, but just having fun with the blaming game. It is just silly and useless. If he divorce you, abandon you his baby, will he find a better girl who never dated any person as his life? No way! 0% Chance. So, how silly is this? It is just NON SENSE!!

Your husband's jealousy over your past was somewhat cute, but not anymore, and getting out of control, and monstrous. Give him a sweet treatment tonight as lover (you know what I mean), and make sure he is VERY happy.

FYI.
I know men will not agree with me, but I found out that men are like just children sometimes, and need constant assurance and ego boost. :)

[talaniman]

If I were YOUR father, I would kick his arse, for putting my daughter, and my future grandchild through such infantile, BS!

But then, maybe its for the best, that you rid yourself of such a man who can never be happy himself, nor wants to try, and make others happy.

[heartbroken1410]

My due date is on 29th may .my huby is very angry on me and is telling me to go away from his life .I am very afraid . I'm from india . He says I always give different answers this has built distrust in him.I have decided to go at my mom's place I can't stay in such situation because this is affecting me and child very badly. Help me out.

[JoeCanada76]

I think it is best to stay away from this man anyway. He is causing you nothing but grief. He is going to use this as an excuse to walk out and not have any responsibility with his child which makes it even worse. He is just trying to skip out to make his life easier. Obviously he can not deal with the responsibility of a family and I say good riddens. You are better off without him as a husband or father to your baby. Raise your baby on your own with the help of your family and everything will be fine.

[myagony1234]

my due date is on 29th may .my huby is very angry on me and is telling me to go away from his life .i am very afraid . i m from india . he says i always give different answers this has built distrust in him.i have decided to go at my mom's place i can't stay in such situation coz this is affecting me n child very badly. help me out.

I completely understand you. His cruel torturing will not help your unborn baby. You really need to focus on taking care of yourself and your baby. Where are you iving now? In US?

[graduate2life]

Incredible. Your husband is ready to divorce you for something in your past? Ask him how will he make sure that the next girl he marries is what he imagines. His chances of finding that type of a girl he desires (i.e. who has never met anyone) is rather slim. There is no girl who has been waiting for him all her life! Is it better that he has you who wants to stay with him despite his ridiculous behavior, or would it be better he marries again and finds himself with someone who for all he knows would be wishing she was NOT with him. How can he be sure this will not happen!?

Dear heartbroken's husband , if you are reading this, please open your eyes and make sure heartbroken doesn't remain heart broken. Life is not a bollywood fantasy, look around you and talk to some people to open your eyes.

[I wish]

If he can't get over your past, then unfortunately this relationship is doom to fail. He can't find it in himself to be happy with you, while you're hoping for a fantasy that you can find happiness with him. Happiness can't be forced, it comes naturally.

It doesn't really matter who's right/wrong or good/bad. The point is, if he really loved you, he would find a way to cope and work hard with you to repair the trust. It's obvious that he's given up. I know it's easier said than done, but now it's time for you to let him go as well.

[talaniman]

I would love to know what your father says to him, please update when that happens.

You sure picked a class A idiot to marry, and that is sad.

[Cat1864]

I would love to know what your father says to him, please update when that happens.

You sure picked a class A idiot to marry, and that is sad.

I wonder just how much choice they had in an arranged marriage and if this is his way of getting out something he didn't want in the first place.

heartbroken, there are more men out there who truly care about women and don't judge them on their past.

May you have a safe pregnancy and delivery. :)

[heartbroken1410]

My husband loves me a lot I have seen this, that's why I don't want to leave him. I and my baby both need him.I can't live without him.

[talaniman]

You will have to, if he doesn't grow up, and get over himself. Then you will have no choice.

I think once a few older guys slap his head for being foolish, and immature, he will come around, but for you... stop accepting his childish behavior, or he will continue to act as a child!
Don't let your love blind you to your responsibility to yourself , and your child, and family, to stand up for yourself, yourself esteem, and your dignity as a wife, to NOT be abused by this big KID!!

You would not be wrong for that, and a queen of the house deserves that respect!

Act like the queen of the house because you ARE!!!

[sufferer]

Hi
I am also undergoing the same stage but they will never trust you what ever you say.what is set is set.
I can understand you