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Romefalls19 · Dec 22, 2009, 09:41 AM

I agree with the No Comment and also, get rid of your flipping Facebook! It's the freakin devil in break ups

amicon · Dec 22, 2009, 10:50 AM

Good thinking-stick to it.
It'll give you time and peace to heal.

jaffeyjoeblaze · Dec 22, 2009, 01:31 PM

No I isn't deleting my Facebook... I can't loose my friends over her... never that man...

Romefalls19 · Dec 22, 2009, 01:35 PM

Wow... If you are going to lose your friends over Facebook, you need to get out more. After my break up I went without that crap for 5 months, guess what. My friends still had my number and they called

jaffeyjoeblaze · Dec 23, 2009, 02:56 PM

No I didn't mean literally, but some friends are easier to access through Facebook, not all friends have my number...

jaffeyjoeblaze · Jan 23, 2010, 02:06 AM

I am living a good life now... ill have to give the full story at a later time but I want to thank all of you for the advice... I have met so many women and one in particular that has flipped my world and realized how great life is and how better life can be after an ex...

amicon · Jan 23, 2010, 02:49 AM

You're very welcome! Great news that you're feeling so much better.
Stay happy single,date and get to know new people.

No need to jump into a new relationship.. .

paxe · Jan 23, 2010, 09:13 AM

Your life shouldn't get flipped when you met someone... It looks like a rebound, make sure to take your time.

jaffeyjoeblaze · Jan 27, 2010, 09:07 PM

No she is not a rebound, we are just friends but we want the same out of life and want to experience a lot of things together... there has been no talk of dating, just enjoying life and reaching our goals...

As for my ex she is in a rebound relationship and from time to time tries to contact me with jealousy and hate but I ignore her and don't respond and remember the better women out there...

paxe · Jan 27, 2010, 10:41 PM

I like! As long as it is clear. Even if you are interested in her, take things slow, very slow. You need to heal first.

Your ex is a perfect example why rebound doesn't work. Ex's do what they do, and we do what we do, and it is different things.

CarrotTalker · Jan 27, 2010, 10:53 PM

Facebook has an option to block someone, it will de-friend them, and your postings on mutual friend's pages shouldn't show up to them.

emopunk7 · Jan 28, 2010, 02:33 AM

Take things slow and have a good time. We are proud of you but keep bettering yourself and feel confident even without the girl. Being happy with yourself first will save you lots of heartache in the future!

jaffeyjoeblaze · Jan 31, 2010, 02:33 AM

Thanks everybody... I am taking things very slow now... she wants to hang out with me and experience new things but she just got out of a long distance relationship too recently so we both got to take things slow...

jaffeyjoeblaze · Mar 10, 2010, 04:47 PM

UPDATE:

Wow what a couple of months it has been... went complete NC for a month and my ex called me on some 'lets be friends' stuff and lets have lunch stuff... come to find out her rebound dropped her the day before she called... I let her have a piece of my mind and let her have it by telling her I'm not a rebound and she says she'll never contact me again... which is what I want... im am completely happy without her in my life

I did have to change my number because of her contacting me and her rebound questioning me about her contacting me... im not their relationship counselor...

But thanks again guys... this NC stuff really works people... don't lose faith whether you want your ex back or not...

I am currently getting to know a new girl from work who has the makings of a perfect woman in my eyes but that is another story for another time

amicon · Mar 10, 2010, 10:52 PM

Good on you.
And good old NC works.
Good luck and take care.

jaffeyjoeblaze · Mar 21, 2010, 06:55 PM

We work at the same company but on 2 totally different teams so we only see each other sometimes and chat on our work chat from time to time...

She is very important to her team and is always busy but does make time for small chit chat from time to time...

So on 2 occasions we have hung out together outside of work in a group setting and have spent the majority of each time hanging with each other away from the group almost sometimes exclusively just getting to know each other... so the outside of work meetings do us both well and she has flirted a little bit on each time and so have I...

So at work it becomes a different story because she seems to not want her social life mixed with her work life... so I'm like an exception... so last week she left out of town to go back home for a wedding and still had to work so we hardly communicated and it kind of got to me... I just wondered why she wouldn't talk to me as much... was it because she was back to comforting place and back with family and friends?

But the Friday before she left she mentioned how she still wanted to go to this pub since she is new to the city... but she won't be able to until Catholic Lent is over and I mentioned the pub idea like a month ago so it was reassuring to know she still wanted to do that...

So my question is which way should I go? Ask her out on a date with no alcohol involved or wait until Easter and Lent and take her to the pub she has been wanting to go to?

And am I just jumping the conclusions about the ignores on the chat at work?

CarrotTalker · Mar 21, 2010, 07:09 PM

She probably didn't talk to you because she was at a wedding and spending time with family and friends!

Just relax :)

ITstudent2006 · Mar 21, 2010, 07:12 PM

I wouldn't worry about this too much. If she didn't want to talk to you she wouldn't make time for small talk or hang out outside work. The ignores on work chat was probably because it was just that "work" chat. Don't get worried if she ignores you at work, it's a vary good idea not to mix personal life with work life. I would say just ask her to go out with you. Have a nice dinner or whatever it is you see fit for a date. The pub idea is a good idea as well but you can ask her on a date before that... good luck

Rick

jaffeyjoeblaze · Mar 21, 2010, 10:05 PM

Interesting... thanks it seems I overthink a lot of actions that are taken...

A friend said to ask her after she gets back because she is refreshed and maybe homesick and need something to get her mind off or just some comfort since she has told a coworker that she is comfortable when talking to me... and that was based off our first conversation...

friend4u178 · Mar 21, 2010, 10:45 PM

A lot of times when we overthink things you tend to come off as desperate , just take it easy and let time do it's thing.

Just be wary of the pitfalls of workplace romances before you even think about entering into one , there are many.