[pink1234]

I have a best friend that is like a sister to me and she acts nice to me to my face and when she is with her other friends she says stuff that is untrue about me and my friends behind our backs and my best friends have done nothing but try to be nice to her and she just keeps insulting them and I try to make things better and talk things out with her but she just keeps talking about me and my friends and I don't know whether to just not be friends with her or break our friendship if anyone could give us some advice on how to fix this problem please respond and thank you for reading

[Enigma1999]

Hello Pink,

First off, if she were a true friend, she would not hurt you or the ones you love. That's just me though. I believe in loyalty, trust, and making people feel special! Not hurt, deception, and being malicious.

If you have tried talking to her about it and she continues to do so after knowing how much it hurts you, well, then... I would say, maybe it's time to re-evaluate your friendship. I don't want to tell you what to do, just be honest about this and realize this is who she is... I hope she will change, because SHE would be losing out on a great friendship.

Ask yourself though, with friends like her, who needs enemies!

Good luck!

[Kitkat22]

Take a break from her for a while. I think we all go through the bad friend/good friend thing in High School. The thing is true best friends don't hurt each other. I have a very close knit group of friends,I've known and socialize with, who were my best friends in High School school and still are after all these years.Two of them have been my best friends since fifth grade


Now not to say we haven't had our days. We did, but we overcame

The days of getting mad at each other. Hope you all work things out

[jmjoseph]

Friends don't treat each other that way. She has problems. Find better people to be around.

[Kitkat22]

Could she be jealous of your other friends? Maybe you need to clear the air and ask what's happening with her. Just say " look we have known each other for a long time and you have been like a sister to me, but if you have something to say to me or about me, say it to my face."


Tell her she has hurt you and you cannot continue the friendship if she keeps stabbing you in the back. Now remain calm and don't yell. I have found remaining calm in a situation that has really hurt you, will make what you say more credible. Good Luck Little Girl.

[rubyGM]

Dump that loser! I had a problem like that and it never got better, just worse. You should know by now if she was your real friend she wouldn't be acting that way at all.

[0rphan]

Sounds like a jealousy problem to me.

I think if I were you I would arrange a meeting with your friends and hers, you and they can then confront her on any lies that have been said.

This way everyone involved will know what each other has said... there can be no heresay afterwards, as you would all be there.

[Jake2008]

Think about it as who's needs are being met.

You need a friend you can trust and rely on, and to behave in a responsible way.

You need a friend who won't constantly cause you grief, and stir up trouble by involving other people.

You need a friend who can tell you the truth to your face, instead of making up stories based on half truths to justify bad behaviour.

Just those basic needs that we all expect from a good friend, are not apparent with this girl.

You need to be strong enough to recognize that a solid friendship is a two-way street, without one party or the other doing all the compromising and forgiving.

When your needs are no longer being met, it is time to end the friendship. Be strong enough to recognize trouble when you see it, and toxic behaviour that spreads like wildfire.

She is not a friend in my opinion.

[ohsohappy]

I agree 100% with everyone when I say that she is NOT your best friend. You're probably very young, so you haven't figured that out yet, but you will.