[brokenhearted87]

My boyfriend of 4 years has just called it a day. We have broken up before, he moved away a year ago, and its getting harder not seeing each other and stuff. So we're done. I really need people to talk to, my best friend is his sister, but she barely calls any more since she started college and got new friends.

I have another close friend, but it's hard to get together, between our jobs, and she is going on holiday soon for 2 weeks. I have no idea what I'm going to do.

When I'm at work, it's not so bad, I'm keeping busy, but I work awkward shifts, so on my day off in a week, most people are busy, or too tired/no money etc.

He stayed with me the week after we broke up. He wanted to stay and make sure I was OK, we didn't sleep together or anything, but he did stay in my bed, and we hugged all night. It's like the break up neither of us want, but we both know has to happen.

I can't get him out my mind. I loved him so much, we planned a future together, but he loves his job, and it's taken him away from me, literally.

He wants to stay friends, but rarely texts me back, never calls me. Says this is hard for him too, but if it was so hard, why doesn't he just come bk to me? I know there's plenty more fish in the sea etc etc, but right now, it doesn't feel like that. I'm 21, we were together since I was 16, it's hard going to a club, and being 'single' . I still turn away if a guy wants to talk to me, or dance.
I just don't know what to do...

:(

[JBeaucaire]

Do the time. 5 years together means it will be months before your emotions are under control again. Unfortunate, but reality.

And you will ADD months to this process with continued interaction with him. Reconsider that.

You already see how easy it is when you're at work, because you're busy. You must, must, MUST busy up your private life as well. Do some volunteering, take some classes with lots of people and lots of homework, keep the radio and TV going... noise noise noise, baby!

You'll be fine. Everything you're feeling is normal. Hard... but normal. Do your time.

[talaniman]

Break ups are very hard to go through, but you will grow from it.

Now is a great time to see who you are as a person, and as you heal from your loss, and learn to cope with your feelings, you can start to build a life that you enjoy for yourself.

The process is not easy, but you have plenty of time to heal that hole in your soul, and move ahead with your life.

It will get better.