[vanheart]

Don't worry what she says anymore. Its all BS.

Go NC. Forever.

Don't wait to see if its OK with her.

She's a user.

[Blank9988]

She is disgusting, I'll give you that much. I do think it is important to mention that I have been maintaining another casual relationship for over a month though, so at this point I don't feel like I took the high road on that one. Do want to mention my indescretions just so it stays objective.

That said, she did start this mess in my mind, I just started playing the game too instead of running away like I should have. Screw it, I'm doing it now.

The unfortunate part is there are still some logistics involved with stuff that needs to be distributed, I might see if I can find a friend or something to handle it.

[vanheart]

Yup, do that or throw her stuff out in the dumpster.

Good that you are realizing this.

Stick with NC. Don't let her drag you back in.

And more importantly don't rebound. Make sure you are over this & understand who you are before jumping into anything else.

[Kitkat22]

You have received some very good advice. Take it.:rolleyes::rolleyes:

[amicon]

Have nothing more to do with her.

Get rid of her stuff and go NC forever.

[Nataliej5]

Nobody's perfect. Often times we forget that, which is why there are so many divorced couples and people walking around with so much heartache. Your girlfriend's interest in her coworker is definitely a red flag; but its common. I've been there, often times that person may be a sounding board, someone to talk to or to be honest; he may possess a quality that you don't. Doesn't mean that she wanted him over you, I’m not saying that... plus what if he was pursuing her? She may have had some insecurity in your relationship and found comfort in what he was offering. Men can be charming and persuasive, just like women! It doesn't make it right, but makes is a true statement.

So now she wants to get back together and be exclusive. Is that what you want? If so, then why not? You slept with someone else and yet you find yourself wanting to still be with your girl. Is it possible she feels the same way about you and is genuinely trying to make things right again?

Relationships are not easy, but I don't think we should walk away every time things aren’t golden. I've broken up with my boyfriend and then asked him back the next day too! We as women do that as a way to protect our hearts. It’s a way to guard ourselves when something hurts. But the next day, once all the emotions have settled down, we see life without that person is not what we really want. We instead just want that person to stop the behavior that causes us to feel insecure and unhappy about the relationship.

Good luck to you. Life is all about perspective- How you view what is going on in your world. If a healthy, happy relationship is what you desire with this girl, then change your mind- set to believe it is attainable and then go from there. Have faith; it the hope of something with the absence of doubt.