[goldie25]

Me and my ex have recently finished a long distance relationship. It was 5 weeks ago and up until now and he has not initiated any contact, we do talk on Facebook though. So when he sees from my fb status that I am going on a date, why did he text me saying "hope you have a nice meal and gud day". Does this mean he is jealous or is he just being friendly?? I want him back more than anything but he finished it saying he couldn't give me what I wanted. When previous too that he had bought me a holiday as a christmas present to go away in May in which he cancelled. I don't understand how someone's feelings can change like that, it doesn't make sense? Yes he did become distant with me a few weeks before the break in which I questioned him about. But the more distant he became the more I clung on to him, this was wrong and I realise that now. But why all of a sudden is he texting me??

[kctiger]

Why did you feel the need to post on Facebook that you were going on a date? You obviously wanted a reaction from him as you know he looks at your fb page. Seems like a childish game to me. If you want to work things out, then do so by honest communication, not by immature manipulation.

[I wish]

In addition to what KC said about you trying to make him jealous by posting that you're going on a date on Facebooy, if you want him back so badly, why don't you ask him directly? You have so many unanswered questions, but he's the one with the answers. That would be the mature approach.

[talaniman]

Why all this drama over a Facebook posting, and a text message wishing you well? I don't see how you go from "have a good date" to "is he jealous". Clearly this game has to many unresolved feelings, causing confusion, because of continued contact. Stop the contact, and accept its over, and you won't have to analyze every freaking thing he says, and drive yourself crazy.

[neverme]

Yup time to get real, you knew he was going to look at your page writing that you are going on a date is immature. Was he jealous, I doubt it from the message he sent. As far as he's concerned you are moving on and he was wishing you well.

If you have unanswered questions, ask them or forget about them.

[Larken85]

He is with someone else, in my opinion he is telling you to have a good time so that you know he still cares about how you feel but he is no longer interested in the relationship. He is hoping that you are OK and is supporting you the best way he can. You should date close to home and try to get over him, I'm sorry to tell you its over but that's what it sounds like. He got distant because he met another woman who was much closer to home and thus easier to love. You cannot blame him for that, long distance relationships rarely workout the way you want them to. There are exceptions with extremely strong relationships however this was not the case here. I seriously hope you are OK and if you need any support you can chat it up with me.
I understand why you'd try to make him jealous and try for a reaction out of him, but I suggest trying not to do that as your only resort in communication with him. He is gone, go No Contact. I'd say if its over I'm deleting you from Facebook.

[goldie25]

Thanks for your answers guys. But to be fair I have been pretty mature up until now. Maybe putting "I am going out for a romantic meal tonight" was the wrong move and yes I did want a reaction from him, but it still doesn't stop me from wondering why he text me. I have put myself in his position and to be honest if that was me and just ignore it and not even send a text! We are still friends which makes it harder, and he is not seeing anyone else although some of you may think so, but I know he is too busy. I may be wrong but I think he would have respected me enough to tell me that. Plus his friends who are also girls have told me that he's not. You may think I am being silly but I think I'd know if there was someone else!! I hate playing games it's not me but this was something I thought I had to do in order to move on

[kctiger]

In order to move on you need to quit talking to him. How can you expect to get over someone if you stay in contact with them? That isn't fair to you or him. This is over, you are broken up and it should be treated as such. The Facebook chats, the texts, everything should stop.

[goldie25]

I am friends with all 3 of my ex's so I'm not just going to stop. Anyway I haven't texted him for weeks now and he talks to me on Facebook, I am not just going to ignore him. We were good together and yes we are over but there are still a lot of questions left unanswered!

[kctiger]

there are still alot of questions left unanswered!

So ask him rather than posting interpretable messages on Facebook.

We are also here to help. I realize you are getting frustrated but lashing out as if I am supposed to know who you are isn't really beneficial to either of us. You don't have to ignore an ex, you can just simply explain to them that it may be best to go your separate ways for awhile. You can't even date without having him in the back of your mind, which is not really fair to any guy that you go out with.

[neverme]

Then ask them or forget about them. They are the only choices you have.

[goldie25]

I have asked him but he doesn't answer me. Fair enough and I am not lashing out on anyone just extremely frustrated with everything, please accept my apologies

[neverme]

Well you have to respect that someone doesn't want to answer you, they are not obliged to answer you.

I'd get off Facebook and get out there in the real world and start living. You seem to be making a good start dating someone new, but then it seems you slip back to concentrating on your ex. I'd leave dating for a while, if I were you and maybe start a hobby, get some new friends into your life.

[goldie25]

Maybe thanks for the advice anyway