[bombskieezchix]

So me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months, I love him a lot but I took him for granted =[ and I really really regret it. I was going through a lot of stress and depression so I think I took it out on him. On Valentines day , a week ago we got in a fight and he said it was over n he was done. I started crying n I apologized I even tried begging him to take me back but he wouldn't look at me and said it was too late and like he was about to cry. He said goodnight to me that night. Then the next day I tried convincing him again n he said that I'm not going to change n that we've given each other a lot of chances and that he wants me as a friend. He said if it happened on valentines day its always going to happen. I asked if he thinks we would get back together in future and he said no. but then he says he still loves me and isn't going to talk to anyone. I'm trying to get away I haven't talked to him for a week, and its breaking my heart. I miss him terribly and all of a sudden he starts going online but doesn't even talk to anyone. I think he just goes to checkup on me. I hope he misses me too.. I love him a lot, and I want to show him I'm changing for him n myself. Which I am. I even started going to counseling again, and I'm getting my driving license so I can see him asap . He's a good boyfriend he lives like 45 minutes away but he came every week for me. I love him a lot.

[wynndixie2010]

So me and my bf have been together for 10 months, i love him alot but i took him for granted =[ and i really really regret it. i was going thru alot of stress and depression so i think i took it out on him. On Valentines day , a week ago we got in a fight and he said it was over n he was done. i started crying n i apologized i even tried beggin him to take me back but he wouldnt look at me and said it was too late and like he was about to cry. he said goodnight to me that night. Then the next day i tried convincing him again n he said that im not going to change n that we've given eachother alot of chances and that he wants me as a friend. He said if it happened on valentines day its always going to happen. i asked if he thinks we would get back together in future and he said no. but then he says he still loves me and isnt going to talk to anyone. im trying to get away i havent talked to him for a week, and its breaking my heart. i miss him terribly and all of a sudden he starts going online but doesnt even talk to anyone. i think he just goes to checkup on me. i hope he misses me too .. i love him alot, and i want to show him im changing for him n myself. which i am. i even started going to counseling again, and im getting my driving license so i can see him asap . hes a good bf he lives like 45 mins away but he came every week for me. i love him alot.

Interesting story indeed...
I wonder what you'd like for an answer? Or if there actually is one...
You know, we ALL have gone through this very same thing... ever hear that old saying... "its better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all"? Quite true... truth is, love hurts... just like the song says. We as a species are PRO'S at hurting each other.
Listen.. I know nothing of your ages... but I can most assuredly tell you one thing in total honesty, if it doesn't work out... you WILL get over him! Yup, it takes time... I been in love so many times in my life I've lost count... sometimes the goodbyes hurt for a very short time, other times, the lasted till I thought I was going to go crazy! Hey, welcome to the Human Race! Look, if you have to beg him to come back to you... consider this: Just how long do you think he would stick around under those conditions? Love is a TWO WAY STREET... one person, one side of that equation cannot make it happen. Both have to work at it. You know what fills the void best? Dating... find another love in your life... there's so many proverbial fish in the ocean its overwhelming! Some guy comes along and in little time you'll forget ol' what's his name... stressing over a lost love is hard on the body, mind and spirit. I would suggest you let him alone... if he decides to come back to you... all the better... but if he doesn't, and you antagonize him further, you stand a very good chance of driving him away even faster. I know guys, because I AM one... and I understand my gender, AND, I've been around long enough to get a fair handle of the females of our species too. Men basically feel with their hands... women pretty much feel with their hearts... maybe that's one of the many facets that makes us attractive to each other, whatever... but you hurt emotionally because of his absence. That's totally understandable. Yet giving space in such circumstances I really believe would do a world of good, whichever way it happens to turn out... and... getting your license and driving to his house on a regular basis I can pretty much tell you that you will force him to turn off his lights and pretend he's not home... don't push the guy... let him make the OTHER half of the decisions... he already knows how you feel... forcing yourself on him has a 99% chance of forcing him away from you. Let nature take its course, you just might be the better for it... and best of luck to you!

[amicon]

You can force him to come back to you nor is calling him and trying to beg him back a good idea.

You need to accept that its over and start getting over him.
Go no contact and leave him alone.


Read the stickies at the top of the relationship page for good advice on how to handle a breakup.