[kenzi794]

I had sex where the condom broke but he did NOT ejaculate in me ( we stopped once we realized the condom broke). This was January 24th and I took the morning after pill the 25th. I started my period last month on the 19th, and ended on the 22nd. I had some spotting a week after I took the morning after pill, but that is a common side effect. I'm probably worried for no reason, but any help on what I should think? I'm only 15.

[J_9]

As a mother and a nurse I think you should stop having sex until you are ready to be a parent. However, that point is moot since you already have had sex and now have a risk of pregnancy.

You are only 15, do you know the health risks that you and baby face should you be pregnant?

Remember that the morning after pill is not always 100% effective in preventing pregnancy. Have you taken a pregnancy test yet? If not, you should do so using first morning urine. If that is negative you are playing the waiting game. By that I mean that you have to wait to see if your next period comes. Remember, at your age, periods are not always regular, so taking a test every other week would be a good idea.

If you find that you aren't pregnant you have 2 choices: 1) stop having sex (the most logical choice), or 2) use several forms of birth control. Remember, though, that sex, no matter how many forms of protection you use, can still result in pregnancy.

[justcurious55]

Wait and see if you get your period this month. It is normal for the morning after pill to throw your cycle off some. So don't go into a panic if your period doesn't come right away. But if it's more than a week late, take a home pregnancy test.

Have you and your partner both been tested? Get yourself tested if you haven't already. You do not want to risk leaving and std untreated. You might think I sound paranoid, but it really is very important. Keep in mind that some stds (like chlamydia) can show no symptoms but can do drastic damage to your reproductive system. And while you may not want children now, you may want them in the future and it would be a shame to damage your body now to prevent that in the future. So, go get yourself tested and always make sure your partners have been tested.

Also, 15 really is too young for sex. I was 15 too when I started having sex, so take it from someone who has been there. It's too young. At 15, you really are not ready for any of the consequences that come from sex. You should be focusing on school and picking colleges to check out right now. Not whether you might be pregnant.

[kenzi794]

I don't want this you shouldn't be having sex crap. Its my decision and I honestly don't care what anyone else thinks. I just want an answer to like should I be worried? Because he didn't inside me and there wasn't any sperm in his precum because I did my research and he hadn't since the night before and urinated after. So there's no possibility. And I went the extra mile to get this morning after pill which is 98% effective even though there was like a zero chance I was pregnant in the first place. I have like severe anxiety and I just want some help.

[J_9]

i dont want this you shouldnt be having sex crap. its my decision and i honestly dont care what anyone else thinks.

Whoa darlin' chill out! I know you don't care what anyone else thinks, you are 15! You know it all, right? You are bullet proof right?

i just want an answer to like should i be worried?

Yes, you should be worried. Sex = babies. No form of birth control is 100% effective. The morning after pill is not 100% effective.

there wasnt any sperm in his precum because i did my research and he hadnt since the night before and urinated after. so theres no possibility.

Wrong, wrong, and wrong. There is always sperm in pre-ejaculate. A boy/man does not know when pre-ejcaculation occurs. It is a lubrication process of the epididimis and is uncontrollable.

and i went the extra mile to get this morning after pill which is 98% effective

You can go the extra 10 miles to get the morning after pill. It's still only 98% effective, which means you still have a 2% chance of pregnancy. A higher % chance if you were ovulating. Add to that an even higher chance if not taken correctly.

There are members here who used the birth control pill, a condom, AND spermicide and STILL got pregnant.

i have like severe anxiety and i just want some help.

I understand you want help, and I want to help you. BUT you have to put your attitude away for now. You are scared, and I can help you. But do you think I want to help you if you lash out at me like that?

If you have done your research you would know that pregnancy at your age can cause eclampsia. Do you know what that is? That is an extreme increase in your blood pressure that can cause seizures. You risk gestational diabetes that can make you become a permanent diabetic in your older years. You risk having a premature baby who may have to spend weeks or months in a neonatal intensive care unit and may have permanent disabilities only because you have decided to indulge in a few moments of pleasure.

Hun, I am not only a mother of 4 and a grandmother of 2, but I am also a LABOR AnD DELIVERY nurse. I have delivered more babies to girls of your age who think like you than you have fingers on both hands combined.

I have witnessed seizures in girls your age. I have had to literally pull a baby out of the vagina of a girl your age to save its life because the 15 or 16 year old's hips were not developed enough to deliver a baby and were to small so the baby actually got stuck.

If you want these things to happen to you then keep having sex. If you can afford to raise a baby then by all means keep having sex.

It all ends up to be a few moments of pleasure with a lifetime of pain and torture. The boy won't stay with you if you are pregnant. Even if you think he will, I can promise you he will either tell you to get an abortion, or he will run and you will raise the baby alone, or he will deny paternity and spread a bad reputation about you.

[kenzi794]

I know every girl probably says this, but I actually mean it when I say that he isn't like that. I'm not saying that we would be together forever or anything like that, because I know those chances are small. But I do know for a fact that he would support me 100% in my decisions if I was pregnant. He is against abortion, I know all this because we had a serious talk about all this before we had sex. Its not like he is older than me or anything, he is actually younger! I'm sorry about my attitude, I'm just really really scared. Even though I probably have nothing to worry about. I mean I have something to worry about, but the chances are so so so slim. The bleeding wasn't implantation bleeding because it was heavy enough for me to use a tampon and lasted 4 days. It was like my period (the plan B warns about this) and I'm afraid my perios is going to be late because I'm so stressed about this, which will make me freak out even more. Like, do you think that I am pregnant? I don't really have any symptoms besides sore boobs but that is also another plan B thing and I always get really sore boobs about a week before my period, which it should be coming in a week.

[J_9]

Sweetie, the chances aren't "so so slim" they are just slim.

I'm really not trying to be rude or inconsiderate, but I have heard this story time and time again. I can give you a 98% promise that he won't be there with you after the baby is born, I can give you a 98% promise that he will blame you for cheating on him. Remember that 98% is NOT 100%.

There is no such thing as implantation bleeding. It is a common myth. And there are many reasons for bleeding in early pregnancy.

Now, you never mentioned bleeding for 4 days, yet you yelled at me. Honey, I can't read your mind. Plan B can cause bleeding like this and it can cause your periods to be messed up for a month or two.

Stress WILL cause your period to be late.

Do I think you are pregnant? I don't know. Even though I am an RN, I cannot answer that question.

Unfortunately you are going to have to wait to see if your period comes in a week or so. There is nothing I can do about that.

To be honest, I cannot be a hypocrite, I was young once and had sex at an early age, but luckily never became pregnant until I was married.

I am asking you, seriously, if you are willing to take the risks of being pregnant at your age. Can you afford a million dollar hospital bill if you are pregnant and have a baby early? Can you handle a mentally retarded baby if you are pregnant and have the baby early? Will you have an abortion if you are pregnant and he demands it? What will you do when and if you are pregnant and he denies being the father?

Sweetheart, I have a daughter your age. The best thing you can do, and I'm not being mean, is to abstain from sex until you are ready to be a mother.

[Fr_Chuck]

98 percent, let me see if there were 100 buttoms, and two would kill you, and two would make you rich, would you take the chance, knowing you had a 2 percent chance of dying ?

No one method of birth control is 100 percent, and "pulling out" is not a method at all. Once the condom broke he should have stopped completely if he know.

And each time you have sex, even on the pill and using a condom you can still get pregnant, it happens but the chance is small. But there is stlll that chance.

So unless you are ready and able to care for a child, are you willing to take that chance.

[mfisher2671]

The morning after pill is only 85% effective. The sooner you take it the better it will work because the percentage goes down everyday. Implantation bleeding does exist. I have been pregnant twice. The first one I lost and had no bleeding. With my second I remember waking up, I was due for my period. I went to the bathroom and I was bleeding, so I used a tampon. Later that day I went to change it, and I had stopped bleeding. Went and got a pregnancy test. I was 4 weeks pregnant, and have a five year old today. My sister is a mother of 5. When she got pregnant with her first she didn't find out until she was 4 months pregnant because she had her period for the first three months. It is not a myth! I know many girls that have had implantation bleeding. In fact this is usually what makes them think they are. It happened to me, and I know that is what made me go buy a pregnancy test.