[Lansing36]

I am 36 years old and I was adopted when I was very young~ I do not have very much information to give you. I was born in martin county Florida and my mothers name was Janice Beckam and my father's name was Will. My mother's maiden was Schroeder. I am not sure but, I thought maybe someone could help me with what to do with finding them~

[Synnen]

Did you read the sticky at the top of the adoption page, that talks about starting a search?

Also--you are looking for your "biological" parents. The term "real parents" makes it seem as though any OTHER parents are imaginary. Your adoptive parents are probably really terrific parents, and as "real" as any other parent.

[Lansing36]

I am sorry I didn't say this in the beginning.. My adopted parents have passed on and have been gone for many years now. My adopted parents can never be replaced. I was very lucky to have had them. I love them with all my heart. As far as the courts go, my records are sealed they said and I would have to hire a lawyer to get to them which I cannot afford. I am also signed up a adopted site~ On iwasadopted.org. I am sorry to have wasted your time. Have a great day~

[Fr_Chuck]

First don't get in a large rush, over the next weeks, varoius people will come and give you advice.

1. start saving up for an attorney, funny in life how we find money for things we really want.

2. sign up for 40 or 50 adoption sites, there are dozens and dozens of them.

3. have you searched all of your adopted parents papers, most have a lot more info than they ever tell.
I know in many cases ( not all of course) they receive a copy of the adoption paper work, with all the info in it.

Also please understand, so many come here acting like their adoptive parents were nothing and only the bio parents are "real" for myself, I have an adopted son, and I was adopted, and do counseling for adopted kids having id issues. So the term "REAL PARENTS" is like a dirty word to many of us, it acts like us who are adopted parents are nothing. So we are a little touchy at times.

[Synnen]

I agree with Chuck. There are DOZENS of adoption reunion sites. Some of the more popular ones are listed in that sticky I mentioned.

You're not being a bother--I'm sorry if I came off that way. That's the one thing I hate about the internet--since tone of voice isn't there, so often things can be misconstrued.

If your records are sealed, you're going to have a VERY hard time un-sealing them. Oftentimes the biological parents were PROMISED anonymity when they chose adoption, and the sealing of records is a part of that.

[casttostrangers]

Write the county adoption took place in and confirm this is your true county of birth. I know NC by law has to give you that info. Not sure on FL. Amended birth certificates county of birth are sometimes changed to county of adoption. Also try pipl.com. To search their names. Good luck. Knowing made all the difference to me.

[Lansing36]

Thank you for all the help. I had almost gave up all hope for ever finding my bio mother. My situation while getting adopted was a little different. My bio mother knew my adopted parents and it I am sure it was not easy for either side. I know that is where I was born because, at one time I had my real birth certificate. The last few years of my adopted mother life was spent in a hospital bed in my living room which is when she gave it to me and told me to search for my real mother. She told me that my 3 kids deserves a real grandmother and I simply said I had no reason to search for her I had everything that I could ever need and was loved more then most people could hope for. It was only lately I felt curious and started looking. As far as hiring a lawyer to get my records unsealed I don't think I will beable to do that. I am single mother of three and have been divorced for 10 years now. Thank you for your time and I will try searching the sites mentioned above.