[brirehab]

Okay I'm 17 and he's 16 1/2 and we have been on and off for two years since the day I met him. It was imidate chemistry and our relationship was true love like we are perfect for each other.. we are basically the same person. The only thing is, is he lives thirty minutes away and I've been homebound for the last year and three months from my sckness and I've only seen him nine times in the two years we've know each other. And around September I got in this deep depression and I was taking everything out on him and draggining him down and being a basically and we were fighting everyday and I became a little controlling. Then dec third he decided he couldn't handle it all.. I don't blame him and he called it quits.

A week after we broke up he was still telling me he loved me and he wanted to be with me in the future but then all of a sudden he stopped and hooked up with this girl jesse he used to like. He then started liking her and told me he didn't want to sulk and wanted to move on and just wants to be friends and then dec 30 they became a couple and they're moving pretty fast and see each other everyday. Is it a rebound?

My ex was still calling me until I told him January third I didn't want to talk anymore. We stopped talking till janbuary 20th he called me to 'check up on me' the conversation went good then the next day I called him to see how he was doing cause he was sick and again it went good and these were six minute little conversations and then the next day he called me but I told him the guy I was 'seein' thought my ex was still in love wit me and he wanted me to stop talking to him.. so he kind of feels like he was dumped. At first my ex was like that's understandable and then a little later he was like that's ed up and he sounded kind of upset and we talked for a little and then hung up

The girl has some qualitys I have and some I don't.. shes dorkier and uglier and smarter then me and seems like she holds back when she's mad and I'm not like that. They don't fight and are still together and its been a month

I've been working onmyself and got myself together and I'm not depressed anymore and have a better outlook on things and I'm happier but the only thing I'm missing is him. I miss him so much. Do you think there's a chance of him coming back on his own?

[amicon]

It's good that you're feeling better and are doing well.

As for your ex,he is with somebody else and you'll have to accept that and heal from your breakup.

Nobody knows what the future holds,but for now I suggest that you go no contact with him and continue to move forward with your own life.
Good luck.

[Jake2008]

You have a different boyfriend, and your ex has a different girlfriend.

If you are in a relationship and he is in a relationship, then what's the problem.

You can't have your cake and eat it too.

It sounds at best, your relationship with #1 was on and off as you said, and it didn't work out. You started seeing someone else, as did he.

My opinion is you're playing with fire with not only your own relationship, by keeping in touch with your ex, but maybe giving the ex the impression that you are still interested, puts his relationship with his new g/f in trouble.

Neither of you are available.

[jaime90]

No. Don't try to make him come back. He is taken. You need to move on.

[brirehab]

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Me and my ex were on and off for two years and we just were together seven months for the third time and wer each others first loves. We have been broken up for two months and he has a new girlfreind and today's their one month and every time I try to stop talking to him hell call me in a week or two so I told him the kid I'm seeing won't let me talk to him cause he thinks my ex is still in love with me.and at first he was like that's understandable and then he was like that's * * * * ed up.

He just called me and was tipsy and made up an excuse for me to talk to him and then he was like nah I'm just kiddin I just was trying to get you to talk to me and he said he was sorry for being an hole and that I was a * * * * * durin our relationship and I apologized and told him I'm working on myself and I'm happy and he said he realized a lot about himself durin the break up and that I'm more then his friend and I'm his"homegirl" no idea what that means and that I'm a mad cool girl and that we have history together and that its * * * * ed up I'm letting a guy come between us and that he has a girlfriend now and I don't really remember much of it but I'm so confused! I don't know where I stand someone help

[brirehab]

Are these good signs he wants me back?
Okay he has a girlfriend but...
He still tries to call me after I said I can't talk anymore cause my current boyfriend doesn't want me to
He brings up my current boyfreind sometimes in conversation
He told me he realized a lot about himself.. idk if that's good or bad
He says I'm more then his friend I'm his homegirl... he said that when he was tipsy
He called two months later to get stuff off his chest about the break up
He drunk dialed me once
He's always checking up on my Facebook
He got upset when I said we couldn't talk anymore and when I deleted him from my Facebook

Are these signs he might want me back?

[amicon]

You stop taking his calls.
Go no contact and stick to it.

He's the one who is confusing you and by having nothing more to do with him you will be able to move on.

[amicon]

This is your second thread regarding your ex.
You are both with other people-ignore him and stop taking his calls.
He is with somebody else and so are you.

[jaffeyjoeblaze]

Its called a booty call, I've acted like your ex and was always looking to see if I could get sex one more time from her... thats my opinion...

[talaniman]

Oh please, let it go, and the drama will stop. You had history, and now its over, and your still letting him take up your time with past BS!

Shouldn't you be enjoying new partners, and not cheating on them? That's what he wants now, someone on the side (YOU) that he can have at his convenience. But your letting him, so stop the talking with him and get on with your own life, and stay away from his.

Its called false hope on your part, and a complete waste of time, and distracts you from doing your own thing, and moving on.

You had your "first", its over, enjoy your second.

[brirehab]

Okay my ex didn't leave me cause he didn't love me anymore.. he was still telling me he loved me after the break up. It was because I'm in a bad place right now and he couldn't handle itand we were fighting too much and it's a long distant relationship and we only saw each other once a month. He said he wanted to see what else is out there and said he just wanted to move on and basically didn't want to deal with his feelings but wanted to be together in the future. So two weeks later he hooked up with this girl he used to like and she likes him a lot. They live near each other and see each other everydday and have been going out for a month... is this a rebound or did he leave me for another girl? Do you think hell come back?

Him and his rebound never fight... what does that mean?
Is it a grass is greener scenerio?

[talaniman]

Your having trouble accepting this break up, and its very obvious your more worried about him, and what he is doing, instead of focusing on what you should be doing.

Whether he has another girlfriend is not important. Whether it's a rebound, or not, is his business. The real question is, will he be back?

I seriously doubt it, and hope you don't just sit, and be miserable waiting, or hoping, that happens.

[amicon]

You need to stop analyzing his actions and get on with getting over the breakup.
Who he is with and whatever his reasons are for being with her is not important.

Start actively healing and get your life back on track.