[liz28]

What appointment? The only time that I almost consulted a therapist was when my parents discovered my suicide plans, panicked and nearly fixed an appointment. Soon after that, however, I snapped and aborted those ideas.

You should have kept the appt. Seeing a therapist isn't a bad move and will only help you move on and further improvement yourself. I know the choice is yours but this is the only way I see you moving forward.

[tickle]

Therapy is your only answer, either that or moving so far away from her that your can't see her. The issue now is you sound like borderline schizophrenic and under those circumstances medication is in order and a good physcologist. Not necessarily in that order.

Do you think you could make those arrangements on your own because you definitely are not normal any longer.

Tick

[obsessed]

:confused:
How do you think therapy would help me? Would it help me in building a relationship with this girl? And what kind of therapy exactly?

Because if it doesn't help me with that, I might as well have ended my life last year as planned.

As it is, I've pretty much lost my youth, and spent a crucially formative - possibly the most important - phase of my life as a chronically limerent hikikomori. Even now, I'm filled with overwhelming and inescapable regret every time I see photographs on Facebook of happy and young people with friends, doings things and living a life that will linger on in fond & cherished memories.

moving so far away from her that you can't see her.

By suggesting that, do you mean that I have absolutely no hope of any relationship with her, whatsoever? In any case, I doubt moving far, far away would help; these things are black and white, there's little room for gray areas here. You're either together, or not. Period. I don't believe that the farther you are from somebody, the more you miss them (and vice-versa), if you get what I'm trying to say.
Besides, I haven't even seen her regularly over the past few years. The last time I saw her was in November 2009, and before that, it was as long ago as October 2007 that I last saw her. And yet her memory remains as vivid as ever.

[liz28]

Theraphy will help you because a better person mentally and no it won't help you build a relationship with this girl. From your last post I must say you need help quick because you are moving backwards and refuse to see the reality of things. I hope you seek help but somehere I think you won't. Killing yourself won't solve a thing and I wish a family member or friend could see what you wrote and help you see the light.

Your obsession with this girl is dangerous but there is hope with theraphy.

[tickle]

Okay, then, put your money where your mouth is and ask her for a date. If you haven't got the guts to do that, then you are hopeless in seattle my friend.

It's a wonder she hasn't notice you over all this time stalking her and reported you to the police.

Therapy would absolutely not help you build a relationship with this girl, therapy would help you cope with your obessessive compulsive disorder, or whatever it is that carries you through a day.

Don't you have a life other then stalking her ? What do you do for a living to support yourself ? What hobbies, activities, other than stalking do you carry out ?

Everyone of us who have answered here are fueling you, and for the most part, I think you have been putting us on and have made up most of your dialogue.

Tick

Tick

[obsessed]

Its a wonder she hasnt notice you over all this time stalking her and reported you to the police.

Well, I never did anything out of an intent to upset her. Stalking involves active harassment, I believe, and I couldn't even imagine doing that to her.

Dont you have a life other then stalking her ? What do you do for a living to support yourself ? What hobbies, activities, other than stalking do you carry out ?

I graduated from college last summer and right now I'm in that undefined, awkward phase right after graduation, and plan to apply to grad school later this year. I spend most of my time reading, and I'm also into cinema, music, and fitness. I used to play guitar, but I got rid of that too, during that time last year when I jettisoned most of my belongings.

Okay, then, put your money where your mouth is and ask her for a date. If you havent got the guts to do that, then you are hopeless in seattle my friend.

That's what I intend to do, and that's what I've been working towards over the past few months. For better or for worse, I'm definitely doing this in 2010.
Suggestions and opinions?

Everyone of us who have answered here are fueling you, and for the most part, I think you have been putting us on and have made up most of your dialogue.

Of course, I'm really grateful to all of you for your opinions and advice. But I'm literally speechless at your last comment - where did that come from? :confused: I can't think of saying anything in response, except to reaffirm that I'm NOT putting you on and I certainly haven't made up any of this. I'm often rather indecisive and moody, but if there's one thing about myself that I'm sure about, it is this.

[tickle]

obsessed, you have been following this girl, hacking into her e mails and god knows what else since 2006, from your own admission in your original post.

Since 2006, now we are in 20l0.

You are 'speechless' at my last comment. It was formed from my opinion of you from your posts over the last few months regarding this girl that you just can't get over, yet have never met.

I doubt very much, obsessed that you will ever realize your dreams and in my own opinion, you are really rather creepy.

Tick

[emopunk7]

Your last post has been reported as inappropriate. You have some nerve writing that when Tickle is trying to help you! You can't even see it! You are lost in your little world and instead of saying thank you, you offend. Anger problems? I think so but not surprising with your stalking attributes. Get a hold of yourself and think before reacting in such a way.
You need to build yourself esteem. Learn a sport and go to concerts. Learn to cook and take a college course and Ace it! Learn to dance. These are ways to also meet people. Be confident a bit more and that can help you. You need to put some effort and control your mind if you really want us to support you. It's time to change. Do it for yourself!

[Fr_Chuck]

You are a very mentally sick person in serious need of professional help.
You are right to use obsessed, which is not a healthy emotion at all, esp in these cases, And sorry you are totally wrong on stalking, it merely involves stalking, she does not even have to be aware of it. If for some reason another person discovered it and reported it to the police and they proved it to be true, that would all that is needed. Of course if this poor girl found out what you were doing, she would be scared to death, most likely she would never be the same emotionly ever.

You in my opinion are in the top list of the most dangerous confessed criminals that has ever been on our boards, and I have been doing varoius boards for almost 15 years now.

[SeizureSmile]

Hello (... )
It's Been A While Since A Response If This Subject Is Still On Your Mind Then Maybe This Is Perfect Timing. I Wouldn't Want To Talk About Myself or Even Harm You. But I'll Say I Understand. I Will Get To The Point soon. It Is Difficult... To Define People. You Cannot As They Can't Define You. The Simply Complicated Fact Is People Are People. Lets Just Imagine You Want To Change Somebody, Would You Gladly Accept The Same? In Other Words Don't Get Therapy Unless The Best Decision To You. This Conflict Between The Other Critics To Your Response Reminds Me Of What An Indivisual Believes Is "Cool." Because A Rapper Believes Rap Is Cool It Doesn't Make It Fact. It Is The Same Way For A Punk Rock Kid Because He Thinks Punk Is Cool It Again Doesn't Make It A Fact... It Is A Matter Of Opinion. So If Rap Is Cool... And Punk Rock Is Cool... Then Buddy So Is EveryThing That Could Possibly Be Enjoyed. "Obsession" Is Your Problem, Not For The Words Of The Unknowing. If You Are "Obsessed," Harmful Action When Thinking of Her Is Obvious That It Is Not Healthy. The People Who Are Apparently Doll Like For Giving You An Answer That Seems That There Is Not .0000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000 000000000000000001% of a Chance That They Wouldn't Be "Obsessive" If They Have Been Through Your Situations Then Hopefully They Will Never Get Degraded By Opinionated Judgement as You Are To Top Your Well Being Off. You Are Your Own Person... When You Are Ready If You Believe It Then Accept What Is Needed. Remember As Before Said" People Are People" That Includes You. Someday It Won't Be As Important or Not At All. Everything WILL Be Okay. Take Care Of Yourself, Enjoy What You Can and Can't.
-Michael

[Thinkingmuch]

Hey,

I just wanted to know if you are still in the same situation, because you're story is pretty much like mine. (I just met her on other ways and didn't hack her e-mail, but the obsessive part is exactly the same. If you are finally over it, please tell me how you did achieve that. If you are still in the same situation, I'd like to talk with you, because you are the first person I ''know'' who has the same problem. I mean: people here on the forum all think your crazy, and they would have thought the same thing about me if I would have written my own story on here. But all people I know in real life think I'm just normal and I am (because they don't know my story). And that proves I am totally normal except the fact that I'm obsessed with a girl and I think you are just normal as well, except that fact. I just want to talk to someone with the same experiences so I'd really appreciate it if you would respond to me.

[tickle]

Hi thinking, this is an old thread from 2008. Not likely OP will be back. You should start your own new post. All the best to you, \

Tick