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    Gen_1427 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 19, 2010, 06:42 PM
    My relationship is falling apart...
    My boyfriend and I have been living together for 7 months now. For the first few months we were perfect together. We were always out doing things and enjoying eachothers company. We had tons of those cute little moments that make a relationship special. But the past month or two we've been drifting apart. He talks to me as little as he has to when he gets home from work. When I ask if he wants to go do something he shrugs and says not really. All we do anymore is sit at home and watch TV. He says it's because we're low on money and it's hard to do things when it's so cold outside, but that's just because he doesn't want to put forth any effort to think of something new and fun like he used to. I try to talk to him but he never wants to talk about it. He says he doesn't think he's changed. I don't know what to do to make my relationship how it used to be. I need advice...
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    Jan 19, 2010, 06:50 PM

    How much is your boyfriend working?

    Is this more than before?

    Is there any outside changes in either of your lives?

    Are you working?
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    Jan 19, 2010, 07:05 PM

    Unfortunately this is not uncommon when the "Honeymoon" period (3-6 months) of a Relationship ends.

    This is when both parties need to communicate and express any concerns as your moving onto the next step of your Relationship.

    Talk to him and let him know how it makes you feel , it takes 2 to make something work but as long as your both on the same page it can . Not all make it , but if your both willing it will.

    Good Luck!
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    Jan 20, 2010, 05:35 PM

    He's working the same hours he's always worked. I work part time but only in the mornings so I'm always here when he leaves and gets home. And there's not much that's different in either of our lives...
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    Jan 20, 2010, 06:12 PM

    It sounds to me like friend is right, the honeymoon stage has come to an end.

    It takes a lot of effort to get yourselves onto the next stage of happiness and it takes it from both of the people in the relationship.

    So you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel, then once you've discussed it you need to try to bring the fun back into your relationship.

    It may begin with you trying harder at the start but lead by example and hopefully things will get better.

    Start a date night, have a nice romantic meal all set up when he gets home, get his favorite movie out and watch it together... make him feel special and hopefully he'll not only see what a great lady he's got, he'll want to show you he knows that.

    Best of Luck and let us know how you get on :)
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    Jan 20, 2010, 06:45 PM

    Never me: great idea! (sorry had to spread the rep)

    Do you guys spend all non-work time together?

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