[Shane500]

Ok here's the story. Me and My girlfriend have been dating close to 10 months now. I still love to spend time with her and do anything for her. But here recently I've been stressed out with school and work but I feel that I've calmed myself down and I told her that I will leave work at work. She has been recently diagnosed with border line Bi-polorness and It seems like I've been hurting her feelings more. For example we were in the middle of making love and I thought it was going good then all of a sudden she said Can we watch porn. She said this to try and get ready down there again which didn't work. She hurts my feelings a lot more than I do her but I just let it go. Then today she got home from school and before I talked to her I was in a good mood but she is in such a bad mood today that she is bring me down. She don't really say things like "I miss you" or "I can't wait to see you today" and she don't seem that happy to see me anymore. And It seems she wants to hang out with friends more which I don't have a problem with but she told me this which bothered me. "I shouldn't be that dependent because it's a bad thing. I don't know am I losing my mind or is it just falling apart?

[raniarosa]

Since your not so sure if your relationship is falling apart or not but its obvious tat you have your doubts... I suggest you act like it is really over but without being frank and open about it with her. From here you can observe her reactions and accordingly decide if it's over or not... good luck

[mylove1]

Wow... My friend went through this once. I don't mean to make you feel bad or anything but it kind of sounds like she is going crazy, it doesn't sound like to me YOUR doing anything wrong. You sound like a great guy! Maybe its time to move on.

[CrazyThumper]

Shane have you tried talking to her about these things? I really don't feel I nor anyone else can say if it's falling apart with the information you provided. It SOUNDS like you need to start opening up the communication line a bit more. You just told us that your feelings are being thrown around by her actions, and that she may seem unhappy in different parts of your life. These things can all be resolves if you nip them in the butt in my opinion.

But if you stay clammed up, and just let it eat away at you- you end up here, wondering if this are falling apart. It sounds like you made some progress with leaving work at work- this is mature and good that you noticed how that may affect the relationship.

Open communication man is so powerful... get at it. And as far as her not being as 'ready' physically.. start spicing things up a bit!

Thump

[talaniman]

I don't know am I losing my mind or is it just falling apart?

Your not as into each other as you were, and have a hard time dealing with each others issues.

Time for a break. It happens.