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Agonized · Jan 17, 2010, 12:35 PM

I'll try to describe my situation and feelings as best as I can.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 6months now. I am 16 and he is 19. I am having doubts about us. I don't think I'm with him because I love him, but because I just wanted to be with someone.. So in my opinion it was more lust than love. He loves me, but I just don't feel good in this relationship anymore. I feel wrong when I'm with him, we have so much in common that I would rather like to see him as my best friend than boyfriend. I had no intentions of hurting him, I just needed time to realize this is not for me. This was a perfect relationship for him, but not for me. And I feel bad about it now. I recently told him we have to talk about our relationship situation, that my feelings have changed and I will talk to him in person as soon as I can. I'm afraid that he will hurt himself in someway. He hasn't had a good past with his love life, and I don't want to hurt him. I guess its just something I need to go trough, because I can't continue lying to myself and him. I thought about this for a very long time, at first I wasn't sure.. but it felt wrong more and more. And I don't want to live like this for so long in the future. I want to end it, I want to tell him how I feel. It simply isn't right for me. I don't know if anyone out there would understand this, but try to.
I basically want your opinion on this, what would you do? Am I doing it the right way, am I doing the right thing? Please leave your advice and answers, I am confused and not sure what to do. I've said what I want, but still I struggle with it and it is becoming stressfull. I appreciate your time, and thank you for your help.

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Agonized · Jan 17, 2010, 12:38 PM

*I feel like I should be with someone else, and not him.

redhed35 · Jan 17, 2010, 12:40 PM

Tell him its over,be gentle but firm.

No lets be friends,no,lets see what the future brings.

End it,and leave him with no doubt that the relationship is over.

Then start no contact,it's the most quick route to healing for both of you.

Don't get sucked into tears or emotional outbursts or emotional black mail.

Break ups are hard,but he will get over it.

redhed35 · Jan 17, 2010, 12:41 PM

Originally Posted by Agonized

*I feel like I should be with someone else, and not him.

Don't jump into another relationship!

Give yourself time to heal as well,you need space between relationships.

Hang out with your friends,concentrate on school,have fun and enjoy your youth without the drama of a relationship,at least for a while.

Agonized · Jan 17, 2010, 12:44 PM

Thank you for the advice, its very helpful... I just needed someone's opinion

redhed35 · Jan 17, 2010, 12:46 PM

Other memebers will post and offer advice,keep an eye on your thread.

amicon · Jan 17, 2010, 01:10 PM

Redhed is right,and I too believe you should stay single for a while and not worry about being in a relationship for the time being.
Concentrate on school and being happy enjoying your life.
Good luck and take care.

Jake2008 · Jan 17, 2010, 11:42 PM

It isn't fair to your boyfriend, not to know how you feel.

It is the right thing to do, to tell him exactly how you feel, so that he does not run on hope that you will change your mind.

Be firm but kind. You are not doing him any favours in having him believe that there is any sort of future with you.

The sooner you do it the better.