[andrewkellie]

While I was recently separated from my wife I causaully saw another woman. My wife and I have since then patched things up and are doing really well. The lady that I was seeing has found out that she is carring my child and does not want it. The three of us have go together and decided that my wife and I will keep the baby. Both of the women are talking about my wife adopting the baby after it's birth, it would be an open adoption. We are unsure of how to handle this legally.
Do I need to file with the Putative Father Registry even though we have already came to an agreement.
Should we get our agreement in writing?
We are planning on covering her living expenses while she is pregnant, what is the typical amount for Fl?
Are there insurance companies that would cover something like this?
Also should would get her some form of counseling to make sure she is comfortable with the giving up the baby?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[cdad]

First off you need to get a lawyer and get everything in writing. As far as insurance goes the only type that may apply is one she already has or the state. If you have insurance then it might cover for the baby after delivery but not before.

[Fr_Chuck]

There is no health insurance that will cover the birth now that she is pregnant, unless she already had health insurance. If she is low income, medicaid may pay for it.

You need an attorney and everything in writing,

** remember mother can always baack out till it is final.

[AK lawyer]

Many questions here concern issues that call for getting an attorney.

This case screams for one.

[Synnen]

I agree with everyone else that you NEED an attorney here.

And you should ABSOLUTELY get the birthmother into counseling so that she understands what she is giving up and getting herself into. There are counselors out there that specialize in birthparent counseling.

You should ALSO get yourself and your wife into counseling--for ADOPTIVE parents. Many times, adoptive parents don't realize what they are getting themselves into with an open adoption, and how that is going to affect them for the rest of your lives.

For example--has your wife realized that the woman you cheated on her with is going to be a part of your lives for the next (at least)18 years? Does she realize that it's probably not going to be just letters and pictures that she can make YOU send, or that she can send with the minimum of information?

I agree with everyone else that you NEED a lawyer--and a good lawyer should be able to put you in touch with the counselors needed for this situation.

Good luck!