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    msbfava Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 10, 2010, 04:44 PM
    When daughters won't speak to their mothers
    I am really sad and life does not seem to be worth living. I let my husband after 35 years and he has given the kids... all older, his spin on the relationship. Although I am sure that there is more to it. I miss my youngest child and the pain has been relentless for almost 2 years, I wish that she would just come and scream at me, anything just tell me what I have done to cause such an extreme reaction.
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    Jan 11, 2010, 12:22 AM

    I am truly sorry for you and your situation. Your daughter? How old is she? If she is young her father has complete control over her and has probably brain-washed her into believing you are a bad peson. Older? Teens? The teens years are extremely horrible, especially for a young women. If you are willing to connect with her, let her know. Get her phone number, learn how to text, and let her know you are sorry for the pain you might have caused her, tell her she is extremely important to you. Let her know she has a special place in your heart. Ask her out on a coffee date, just to catch up. Let her do all the talking. Let her know you care. Older? A grown women unwilling to talk to her own mother, how unfortunate. Write her an email, asking for forgiveness. Let her know you miss her, and have nothing else in the world, ask her to reconnect with you, go for coffee. Let her know you need her. She might not accept, but you will hit some emotions. Good luck :)
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    Oct 18, 2011, 11:02 AM
    I know the pain you are feeling! I went through a similar situation quite a few years ago. I can only tell you how I got through to my children. I NEVER missed an opportunity to visit. I called as much as was allowed and eventually they were all living with me. Depending on there age and the extremety of what they were told, it may take more or even less time than it took my children to figure out that I loved them dearly. You sound like a loving mother and if you don't give up I think your children will come around. Im sure they miss you too. Good luck and God bless.
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    Mar 19, 2013, 04:53 AM
    I am very thankful and grateful for this forum. I am happy to know that I am not alone.

    The pain, hurt, agony, sorry and misery we feel as mothers and grandmothers
    Are overwhelming at times for what our adult children put us through. "They never
    forgive or forget"

    But when they get in trouble, they want you to forgive and forget.

    I made the mistake in trying to reconnect with my youngest daughter after separation
    For about 3 years.

    I allowed her to visit my home, this weekend. It was a disaster. She came in and tried to run
    My home with her new boyfriend. In my home they had no respect for me.

    It was a disaster. But I did have an opportunity to celebrate my grandson's 8th birthday.

    I only get to see him once a year and that is on his birthday. And that is because my daughters knows that I am going to give her money and shower my grandson with
    Gifts.

    Am I a fool?

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