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How do you raise your child with your man who is not a biological father
I broke up with my boyfriend who is the father of my chid, now I have a boyfriend and he is wiling to raise the child with me so how do I make it work and the father also want to have a relationship with his daughter. I am afraid it might affect or confuse the child because she is just 4 yrs old. How do I make it work?
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Never, ever, let a boyfriend raise a child as the father. You are correct that the bio father should remain in her life, and you should teach her the difference between the two.
Now, I might sound a little old fashioned, but it is my belief that you should not bring a boyfriend into the life of the young child until marriage is on the horizon. She will get confused if men come and go in your life. You should maintain a stable relationship prior to introducing the man to the child. |
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I think its important for your daughter to have a good relationship and regular contact with her biological father... and the you and your boyfriend respect that relationship,for example,don't be mean about her dad,nor make her choose.. For you and your boyfriend,you can both provide a loving and stable home for her,having family meals when possible together,play games,read stories,all these things add up in a home and create good memories for children. Encourage both your partner and your ex to be active in her life. With all these people wanting to take care of your daughter,she's a lucky little girl. |
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My fiancé has two kids from a previous relationship, they have their father but they do call me dad at times. He's not around, hasn't been much in their lives, always in and out, but I know that is still their father. It's one thing for your boyfriend to raise the child, it's another to raise the child with the child being given the impression that he is the father. Keep it separated and let the child know it as well |
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I hate to say this, but I suspect that your new boyfriend is just a rebound and he's filling the void of the "missing father".
Your new boyfriend shouldn't be expected to help you raise your child, but he can do it out of the kindness of his own heart. You should be involved with this new guy because you have romantic feelings for him and not because you "need" a father figure for your children. As for the father of your child, hopefully you're getting child support? |
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