[Fr_Chuck]

Hey, I actually got thanked for once, most people always leave me out,

[Alty]

judykaytee............do not be an arse yourself!!!!!!

I'm beginning to see your mother in laws point. Is this how you act when you don't get what you want?

The people on this site are volunteers, we don't put up with name calling and abuse. If you don't like the advice, fine, move on, don't take the advice. We all have the right to our opinions.

If you continue to be abusive you will be banned. That type of behavior is not welcome here.

I'm reporting your post. I'll let the mods decide what to do with you.

[tonton134]

I thanked everybody... do not you know to count?

[tonton134]

Please tell me where I was abusive?

[tonton134]

My mil is abusive on us when she does not get what she wishes!! not the inverse.

[tonton134]

The abusive language you used and your friend judy... not me... i was trying to get advice for a problem which i am facing!!

[tonton134]

Let the mod decide!

[artlady]

Altenweg.............I understand why you are with pets!!

You do not get my point...............What I meant is a MIL who allows you to stay with her does not threaten the same with police!!! Highly educated means I am usually a more reasonable person and does not interfere with anybody else's life ............like my MIL do?

You come on here and insult a highly respected member and I can see that you are most likely doing the same in you MIL's home.

You are pushy and arrogant here and I suspect that you are doing the same at the MIL's house.No wonder she wants you out.She is ill and you are having arguments with her?

You say you do not intefere in anyone's life,I beg to differ.

You have interfered in your MIL's life the day you moved in and you continue to do so by staying where you are clearly not wanted.

When you are a guest in someone's home,you keep your mouth closed and you do everything to show them you appreciate their hospitality.

Unless you want to be on the street I suggest you learn some humility and take a job at McDonalds and find a room for you and your wife.

I think you thought you were going to come here and hook up with this highly educated woman and have an easy life.There are no handouts,someone is trying to give you a hand up and you should appreciate it and show the respect a sick elderly woman deserves.

There is an expression in the US... if you can't stand the heat ,get out of the kitchen.I hope you get my drift!

[hheath541]

You have reacted immaturely here, in a situation where it is very easy to ignore a comment, so I can only imagine how you react in person.

You asked what you should. You were told that you should get a job and move out. You have chosen to ignore that and have, instead, picked on other things that have been said. The questions asked by others were only meant to get more information to paint a fuller picture of the situation. You took them as personal insults.

Your posts are confusing, and several seem to contradict themselves. Maybe it's a case of crossed wires. Maybe you're upset and that's effecting your word choice. Maybe you're rethinking what you previously said and trying to reword it to sound better for you. I don't know.

If I understand your first post correctly, you can't get a job until you're granted a work permit/visa/whatever. OK, fine. Your wife is having a hard time finding a job. There's not much you can do about that, either.

You are living with her parents, in their house. That means that if her mother decides to kick you out, she has every legal right to. If she tells you to move out, that's what you'll have to do. You should start looking for alternate places to stay, in the mean time.

There's nothing you can do to stop her from calling the cops. Have you tried just not arguing with her? Or talking to her calmly to find out why she doesn't seem to like you? If that doesn't work, because it doesn't with some people, then all you can do is hope the cops don't decide to press charges against you one of these days.

Do you do anything outside of the house? Do you have anyone you talk to or hang out with? Do you have a hobby you can practice? It sounds like you're going stir crazy from spending so much time in the same place, with the same people. Maybe doing something for yourself, hopefully out of the house, would help ease tensions.

I know it's winter, and you probably don't have many friends in the states yet. I know money is tight. There are still ways to get out of the house.

Go to the library. Check out free local galleries and museums. Look into joining a church group or attending meetings for something you're interested in at a community center. Volunteer somewhere fun (as far as I know volunteering doesn't require a work visa). Take up mall walking.

Find other ways to release your anger and frustration, instead of arguing with your mother-in-law. Grab a shovel and clear the driveway (if you live somewhere with snow). Clear the neighbors' driveways if you need to. Take a walk to cool your head. Do push-ups or other physical activity. Blog everything in a locked, private blog, that your wife and mother-in-law will never even know exists. You just need another outlet for your frustrations.

[tonton134]

All members say I am insulting... explain me please... instead of writing uninteresting words!!

[tonton134]

Thanks hheath541

[hheath541]

All members say I am insulting...................explain me please.............instead of writing uninteresting words!!!

THAT is a PERFECT example.

We have tried to answer your questions. You, basically, just said that you didn't even bother to take the time to read our answers. If you aren't going to read our responses, why should we even bother trying to help you?

Is english not your native language?

[Fr_Chuck]

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