[Lucky191]

Hello I am a 20 year old female and my first Boyfriend of 6 months broke it off with me 3 months ago. It was a clean split he basically said he didn't feel like he was my boyfriend and our differences didn't encourage a promising fututre. After reflecting I can agree but I still love him even though I feel like I'm moving on. He said that he would like to be my friend instead since he already felt that he was. However I made mistakes right after the split like contactng him and asking him to reconsider being with me again, crying and getting real emotional. I even made him really mad once but despite my emotional breakdowns he text me every once in a while to see how its going. I'm not sure what I want now but I would want to remain good friends I still care for him and he is a good person. I haven't been contacting him lately and we don't see each other I really miss talking to him, should I just let more time go by before I contact him and should I respond if he contacts me.

[redhed35]

Breakups are hard,I would suggest going full no contact,your not healing from the relationship,but keeping the wound open by staying in contact..

Although you say you want to be friends,the fact that you still have feelings for him will stop any friendship happening and only serve to give you lingering feelings.

There are great suggestions in the relationship thread,see the stickies...

Really,for you to move on,heal and be ready for a new relationship you need to go no contact with your ex... that includes Facebook,taxt,e mails etc...

[I wish]

Wait until you've healed from the break up before you consider being friends.

Attempting a friendship while the emotional dust hasn't settled will just give you more false hope and over-analyze all the little details. Otherwise, you're just prolonging the recovery process.

One helpful tool of getting over the other person is no contact. Read the stickies for more information.