[duckie1]

I was wondering if anyone could help. I love this girl who likes another guy. They went out a few years ago and she has never gotten over him. This girl and I are good friends and I felt that we started making progress recently and I really thought that we could have started dating soon, but then we sort of had a setback. My friend that she likes just got a girlfriend and it seems that she wants him now more than ever. I really do love this girl, but I don't know if she will ever feel the same about me. She said that she really likes me now and I hope that she will like me more soon. I don't know if I should try to help her get over this guy or what. I know its complicated and that is why I am asking for advice. Please help

[kctiger]

My advice: NEVER get involved with a woman who still has lingering feelings for her ex. It will not work out and it will actually hurt you in the long run.

Leave her alone and find someone who can actually dedicate themselves fully to you, as dating her would only garnish half of her attention while the other half is focusing on her ex. You can't "get her over" her ex. That is something that takes time and effort from her. You would be nothing more than a rebound currently until she has fully moved on from her heartache.

[Imabadman]

You can't make her do anything. But you could just have fun with her, taking it slow, and just see if she comes around. Show her a goodtime, show her that you're fun and exciting.

I'm not saying try to be her BFF or a shoulder for her to cry on. Go on dates, romance her. A few dates and you can feel out where she's at without investing too much emotion. If she still seems stuck between you and the other chap... walk away.

[I wish]

She's just on the rebound. Wait until she's recovered from her break up before you take any more steps with her.

[duckie1]

Thanks for the advice everyone

[Silver Lining]

Tell her about your feelings,, that you really like her and would like to c her happy. Tell her its hard for you to c her still hung over her Ex while he has moved on. And that you would prefer not to be around her since her sadness hurts u. make sure she knows you like her before you turn around to leave. Don't stay around to chat,, she should reply with a yes or no to your indirect proposal(I like you proposal not love u)
If she likes you the way you do, she will surely call. Else it's a chance your taking, a risk.

[2ndTime]

I agree with I Wish. Wait till she's over the guy, then tell her how you really feel about her.