[blueblueblue11]

On Friday night I fell out with my boyfriend. He had done something wrong, so I shouted at him all via text message. I was so mad, as I had had the funeral on my much loved aunty the same day and I absolutely lost it with him. I called him allsort such as a selfish idiot. This is all because I had not seen him since last Tuesday and then Friday night when I needed him most he was out with his mates, and could not really see he was in the wrong. On Friday night I was so cross I wanted it over, and I told him that. I also told him never to text again.

The weekend has now been and gone and we still have not spoken. I know for a fact he has had a good weekend and been out with his mates every night since Friday, ad Facebook has told me.

What I find strange is that he has kept me as a friend and says he is still in a relationship on Facebook, yet we have had no contact. One problem is we are bpth very strong and stubborn characters. We both probably feel I am going to wait until the other ones texts. But how I see it is how can he care about me if I say its over and he just walks away with no fight.

I am absolutely distraught, have not stopped crying all weekend, however I do not want to be the first to text or ring him again, as it makes me think we is he even thinking about me or has he moved on already?

Please help me

[JBeaucaire]

His plan is working. I think he's brilliant.

My advice to ANYONE who is ever dumped is do exactly what this guy is doing. Don't fight, don't argue, don't plead, don't give the "dumper" any apparent control over your happiness. Just move on immediately and give the impression (even if it's false) that you're going to be just fine with the breakup.

The result will most likely be what you're going through now... complete self-doubt. Most people who get dumped don't manage to put the dumper on defense. Looks like he's accomplished that.

If he has done this on purpose, awesome. You will HAVE to give in and call him and he WILL be in control of whether you two get another shot. Brilliant. Good for him.

On the other hand, if he has not done this on purpose, then he truly has moved right along and it's time you do the same. Do not doubt anything you had in the past. It was fine, it was real, blah blah. It's also now over and he has gotten over you quite smoothly.

Again, good for him. He's taking care of himself, like you told him to. Time for you to do the same.

Call him (don't text [puke]), or stop thinking about him/checking his Facebook. Those are your choices. Well, those are your SANE choices.