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brokenheartls · Nov 10, 2009, 01:49 AM

I don't want to MAKE her talk to me about her problems..
I want her to be more comfortable with me
She talks to my best friend and cries , she talks to him about her problems..
I am really afraid she will dump me for him , and she said he is like a brother to him,

She said she can't talk to me about her problems , and she never cried in front of me
But why?
I want these kind of emotional talks..
I think they can bring us closer..

I just need help..

I want my girlfriend to tell me about her problems... and not to other people
It makes me really angry and jealous that others comfort her and not me :(
What can I do to make her comfortable with me?

Clough · Nov 10, 2009, 01:51 AM

Hi, brokenheartls!

How is your relationship going with her over all and how long have you known each other, please?

Thanks!

brokenheartls · Nov 10, 2009, 01:53 AM

We are together for 4 months ,
Its all good we really love each other.
She tells me everything about her..
But she never talks about her problems.. family problems
Like fights with her parents and such
She is 16.5 years old
And I'm 18 years old

She tells my best friend and its really bothering me

Clough · Nov 10, 2009, 01:57 AM

Has she known your best friend longer than she's known you?

brokenheartls · Nov 10, 2009, 01:58 AM

No she only knows him for on week or so

brokenheartls · Nov 10, 2009, 02:00 AM

She said I don't listen to her..

But the real thing is that I beg her to talk to me

I always listen when she talks.. I'm not the one that talks a lot
I'm mostly a listener

She doesn't talk to me about her problems and never gets emotional , she never talks to me and cries.. I want to comfort her and make her happy.. but she doesn't talk to me and its really making me unhappy

Clough · Nov 10, 2009, 02:08 AM

Do you know why that she says that you don't listen to her?

amicon · Nov 10, 2009, 02:19 AM

This is the girl from your other thread? Please read through the advice you ve been given there.

Clough · Nov 10, 2009, 02:27 AM

Hmmm...

I'm sorry, amicon! I hadn't explored the other thread yet - usually do that. But, this seemed to be an isolated type of question here just having to do with communication.

Thanks!

Ithappenstoall · Nov 10, 2009, 02:33 AM

I don't want to say you were a rebound.. but that idea is there. This is dangerous territory. How long after her ex did you start dating? This she have enough time to heal and grieve ?
I want to say the following... if she can't decide between you and him and if she loves you both, something is wrong. I do not believe in that sort of thing. You cannot love two people equally, like you cannot like two types of food equally.
The hell with her, she is leaving you hanging. Run forest Run... she doesn't know what she want, so show her what she lost

brokenheartls · Nov 10, 2009, 03:00 AM

I'm better than her ex in every way
Its just I'm different religion
She doesn't want to be with someone that the chances of a future with him are low , yet , she doesn't want to dump someone she truly loved...
Her ex doesn't love her like I do..
I treat her like the last girl on earth, and that's why she can't decide
Her ex and her have the same religion...
I hope some can help her decide

I told her that there is a future..
And that the only thing in life the is sure to happen is death..
She said she will think about it.
And here I am waiting

brokenheartls · Nov 10, 2009, 03:02 AM

She said that because she didn't even try talking to me..

She said she is scared that I will dump her if I know about her family problems..
But I told her its O.k
But still she won't tell me..
So I gave her a solution , I told her to start telling me first using
Instant messengers
Then on the phone
And eventually face to face..
And she said OK.

bswc · Nov 10, 2009, 03:02 AM

Its communication skills and a little psychology here. I was this type of person, and to make me talk about my problems is to talk about your problems and smartly relate it to mind, have to be smart. Its hard sometimes... this is a hard question, but the best you can do is to confess to her and take things slowly and smartly.

brokenheartls · Nov 10, 2009, 03:18 AM

I think she is just scared
She thinks I'll bale on her if I hear about her problems because her other ex's refused to talk about this kind of problems and were offended..
But I'll be the happiest man alive if I can make my g.f happy , I will never bale on her
But she just doesn't believe me on this subject..
I want her to believe me..

Clough · Nov 10, 2009, 03:24 AM

It's not unusual for someone in a close relationship with another to want to only seek out the happy things about which to talk and enjoy rather than have sad or bad issues that might only be the problem of one of the parties in the relationship, "cloud" the relationship in some way by those things being a part of the relationship.

Oftentimes, the person who is having personal problems or issues will seek out someone to speak with about them with whom they're not all that personally involved.

Clough · Nov 10, 2009, 03:27 AM

Originally Posted by brokenheartls

i think she is just scared
she thinks i'll bale on her if i hear about her problems because her other ex's refused to talk about this kind of problems and were offended..
but i'll be the happiest man alive if i can make my g.f happy , i will never bale on her
but she just doesn't believe me on this subject..
i want her to believe me..

I think that you can make her happy just by being there for her, if she needs you to be, and requests your involvement, and being the person with whom she can have a good time without having the burden of other issues that might be unpleasant having an influence on the good times that the two of you can have together.

brokenheartls · Nov 10, 2009, 03:33 AM

I'm just confused..
I talk to her about everything
My problems with my parents , about my job , etc..
She talks about everything besides our problems
She told me I don't talk about my problems because I don't want to face my problems...
And she doesn't talk to me about her problems at home

I hope it will change soon , because she is starting to like my best friend and that's very bad in my opinion

Clough · Nov 10, 2009, 03:53 AM

I've already addressed why she might not talk about her problems that she has. Did you read what I wrote, please?

Thanks!

amicon · Nov 10, 2009, 04:04 AM

So not only has she still feelings of some kind for her ex-now into the mix you re adding: she might be starting to like your friend?
Don't you think a really serious talk about where this is going is in order?

Clough · Nov 10, 2009, 04:16 AM

Are we going around in circles here, amicon?

Now, the communication thing seems to be on the edge of going into something deeper...

And, would seem to be getting into the aspects of the other thread.

Thanks!