[Reactor]

Agree with I wish.

I did this countless times, hence why I urge you to not communicate with her.

I know you want emotion, any kind of emotion from her will do. Please do not do this, as I type this I am dead serious.

I did this for four months while my ex slept with another guy, and now I'm a basket case.

DO NOT end up like another example of a loser like myself. Shoot for a week with NC, then when you reach that, try for another few days, then a few more etc...

Remember, do not run your body with your emotions in these types of situations, and you obviously are. It's not a sign of weakness, but a sign of desparation, which, naturally isn't attractive.

This will not improve, and I'm not just saying this to be a puppet.

[what2do27]

So I haven't contacted or talked to my ex in months (almost a year of NC), then out of the blue she was texting me, asking me how am I doing, that she missed me, and thought about our relationship a lot while we weren't together. We talked for close to 3 hours one night and she ended the conversation with "I hope you and I can be friends." Right then and there I thought "She doesn't want me back." So even though I was confused for a bit I went on with my life.

A week later we met up to have coffee with one another and talked for another good 3 hours, like we never missed a beat with one another, and talked about our lives, how good things are and what places we are @ in our lives. Then she started talking about how she "needs to be alone" to get her life straitened out, and after me all the guys she has dated, there was something always lost with them but not with me.

At the end of the night we hugged, I kissed her on the forehead and said "I'll always be here for you, and I truly do care about you." We then went our separate ways.

A month goes by and I decide to call her just to let her know that I've been thinking about her and when I do I hear the same thing... she says "I've been thinking about you a lot too." I asked "Like what" and she goes "Just how we were, in the beginning, and during our relationship, I loved it, it was so natural and easy." SO then I asked "Well why don't we go out on a date, just you and me, maybe we can go see a movie?" Her response "No, we are friends, and I just want to be alone" but then she starts crying. She tells me things I have known about her past and the reason why she is afraid to restart something with me. Not because I was a bad guy, but because everything she touches crumbles. All I can tell her again is that I do care for her best interest and respect the decisions she is making in life.

A few minutes later she calls me and says "Can we go see a movie?" SO I say yes and we meet up a couple hours later to watch "Where the Wild things are." We both laughed, and both got teary eyed at the end and were shoulder to shoulder the majority of the movie. Later on she walked me to my car, gave me a hug and I told her "I missed you" and her response was "I know." When I tried looking at her and saying "Whatever the universe wants us to be" and she says "Friends" she gets very teary eyed, every single time.

Now this is the kicker, she text me tonight and says "would you like to come watch the world series game with me, and I said "Sure' and her response "I would like that just as friends." Why does she keep saying that? I know she wants to be friends with me, but she doesn't have to mention it to me 50 times a day? I haven't tried anything to make her think that I want more (even though I would love to date again, I know my boundaries.)

So key notes you fellow thread members can figure out for me.
She calls/text me after months of No Contact to tell me how great of a guy I am, and how she loved being in this relationship with me.
After another month of No Contact and she tells me she's been thinking about me a lot and how we were.
She keeps bringing up how she only wants to be friends with me because she needs to be alone.
She can't look me in the eye without crying.

Everyone is telling me she wants me back, that just give her time, she'll come around and I'm hardly worried about all of this. Having her in my life is good, and I do love her (always will) but I don't act the way she does towards me.

What do you people think I should do?

[none12345]

Stop breaking NC dude. She has no intentions of getting back with you. She is using you to feel good about herself and less guilty for the break up. She is using you as a friend with benefit.

What I think you should do is don't play any of her games if you can't be friend stop being around her and stop trying to get her back. Go back to NC and this time for good.