[Alty]

I can spell but I use text writing because its easier

Chat speak is a sign of immaturity and laziness, it's also against the rules of this site.

I'm getting tierd of people putting me down on here I just want people to know that not every teenager is the same,

No one on this site put you down, we just stated the facts. How many times do we have to tell you that you're not the norm?

I've never been on social funds or what ever you call it but why is everyone against people getting help?

We're not against people getting help, we're against paying for a selfish teens wants. Accidents happen, but getting pregnant on purpose and then expecting tax payers to support you, that's not acceptable. If you want to act like a grown up then you have to be a grown up and take care of your own, not expect someone else to do it for you.

people with money have spoilt their kids and they have become greedy and hate it if they can't have something! I

You just admitted that your kids are spoiled, they have too many clothes, you go on holidays and have lavish birthday parties.

anyway I'm not replying to any more of these because the people on these polls are just selfish and are only thinking about their life story instead of thinking people can accually be happy!

The really selfish thing is when people only think of their own happiness. We've all said that you're not the norm, that you are making teen motherhood work, but that's not the case for the majority of teens. You're the one thinking of your life story instead of thinking about the reality for most teens.

As for not replying anymore, that's your choice. You opened this can of worms with a lie, now that you're getting honest legitimate feedback you're not happy.

Did you really think that anyone would agree that teen pregnancy is a good idea? No one on this site is judging you, but you are judging all of us. So much for maturity, mature people are willing to listen to wisdom.

[Cristy85]

Well I did it ALONE when I was 17 ( with help from my parents) and I think I did just fine, and I am still a single mother raising my boy on my own. To me it gives you that will power to try that much harder in life.

[J_9]

Well I did it ALONE when i was 17 ( with help from my parents) and i think i did just fine, and i am still a single mother raising my boy on my own. To me it gives you that will power to try that much harder in life.

Not to be rude, but you didn't do it ALONE if you had help from your parents. ALONE means no help from anyone.

[Synnen]

I don't HAVE a problem with teenage mothers that do it on their own, you know.

I chose what was best for my daughter--it was the hardest thing I ever did.

Why do I have a problem with people who get pregnant and depend on welfare programs? Probably because they are NOT doing what is best for their children that way. THAT is the most selfish thing people can do--raise their children on someone else's money, simply because they can't bear to do what is best for them.

You've proven nothing. I don't care HOW much easier chat speak is to type, it's NOT easier to read. I work in a college, and people who use it come across as lazy and stupid to me--THAT is the image you are projecting when you use it. Maybe THAT is part of the reason people look down on you?

Again--no one said you didn't love your kids.

We just have LIVED through years you haven't yet. Come back and tell me how great being a wife and mother is when your friends are going out and celebrating being legal to drink, and when your friends are taking trips you can't afford, and when you're stuck at home when everyone else seems to be out having fun.

It's great that your fiancé makes great money being self employed right now! Now ask some of the people on this board who are self employed how secure that really is. Ask people with no college education how easy it is to get a job that not only makes ends meet but allows you to have extras at the end of the day.

You are an EXCEPTION to the rule. There are very few that could do what you've done. THEREFORE--I would STILL say that a 16 year old has no business getting pregnant, and even less business keeping her child if she can't pay for ALL of that child's needs on her own.

[Cristy85]

I guees J_9 is right. I didn't do it all by myself I did have my parents, but it was hard, and I guess I didn't read the ? Right, you are planning? Girl, I thought I was in love and he was the one at 17 and blah blah blah. Give yourself time. You have your whole life ahead of you to have babies.

[staceyminx]

Stacey, I want to congratulate you for being the exception to the rule. However, deceit will get you nowhere. You came on here specifically to deceive us and that's just not right.

Now, I am going to speak from a medical standpoint...since I am a labor and delivery nurse as well as a newborn baby nurse.

The younger a woman is, the higher the risks of certain birth defects as well as potential life threatening pregnancy risks. At 16 there is a very high risk of down's syndrome (almost as high as with older than 35 years of age), as well as pre-eclampsia, eclampsia, HELLP Syndrome, premature labor and delivery, etc.

You see, at 16 your body is still growing and needing all of the nutrients it can get. Pregnancy takes away these nutrients leaving your body and the health of the baby at risk.

So, again, you are the exception. You just need to stop the deception.

OK I see where your coming from, I didn't mean for it to get this far, I was just looking at other posts where people were being real cruel to all young mums and I didn't think it was fair! I was hoping to get a message across that young mums can love their kids as much as older women. I didn't know the risks were higher at 16 because when I was pregnant with my first child my downs test came back 1 in 7000 chance and my second pregnancy was 1 in 5000, which I was told was a very low risk factor. Anyway like I said I'm not going to cuntinue with this thread,

[staceyminx]

I guees J_9 is right. I didnt do it all by myself i did have my parents, but it was hard, and i guess i didnt read the ? right, you are planning? Girl, i thought i was in love and he was the one at 17 and blah blah blah. Give yourself time. You have your whole life ahead of you to have babies.

No I'm 18 and I have 2 children already, me and my fiancé have been together for 4 years and are planning our wedding!

[ScottGem]

i can spell but i use text writing because its easier (i can still talk to my TEENAGE friends the same way as i used to, that doesnt have to change when you become a mum) since when does spelling have anything to do with it anyway?

I'll explain what spelling has to do with it. Its an issue of perception and rules. The rules for this site state that chat speak is not allowed. You agreed to abide by those rules when you signed up for this site.

When you are sloppy with spelling and grammar and use chat speak you give the impression of laziness, lack of education, etc. If you want people to take you seriously it helps to give a better impression.

A lot of your problem here is you don't seem to be listening to what people have said. Almost all your responses have applauded you for making a success of what happened to you. But you are not the norm and to assume that you may be and give advice accordingly is irresponsible.

[Alty]

ok i see where your coming from, i didnt mean for it to get this far, i was just looking at other posts where people were being real cruel to all young mums and i didnt think it was fair! i was hoping to get a message across that young mums can love thier kids as much as older women. i didnt know the risks were higher at 16 because when i was pregnant with my first child my downs test came back 1 in 7000 chance and my second pregnancy was 1 in 5000, which i was told was a very low risk factor. anyway like i said im not going to cuntinue with this thread,

I would like to see the posts where you claim people were cruel.

We often do have to be a bit harsh in order to get the point across but we're never cruel. Stick around for a while, when you answer 20 questions a day from kids 16 and under wondering if they should have a baby but not having any clue how they'll support that child, then maybe you'll change your opinion.

[ptcpaul01]

Hi my wife was 18 when she had our son, we loved each other, but here are the concerns
1) income can you afford it, it is way more expensive then you think and if you have a special needs child even more so
2) look at what you will be missing, proms, dances, friends, school,all of your teen years you can not get those back.
3) is your family ready for this, if not they may treat you like black sheep of the family and not help out and be what you need them to be.
4) 2 years with a B/F at 16 hardly constitutes a relationship,
Please consider these things, all are important

[Alty]

Hi my wife was 18 when she had our son, we loved each other, but here are the concerns
1) income can you afford it, it is way more expensive then you think and if you have a special needs child even more so
2) look at what you will be missing, proms, dances, friends, school,all of your teen years you can not get those back.
3) is your family ready for this, if not they may treat you like black sheep of the family and not help out and be what you need them to be.
4) 2 years with a B/F at 16 hardly constitutes a relationship,
Please consider these things, all are important

Read all the posts before answering.

The OP lied to us, she's actually 18 and already has 2 children.

[J_9]

This thread has gone on way too long. It was based on lies and deceit and has spun out of control from there.

It is officially CLOSED