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maggie0505 · Aug 14, 2008, 04:20 PM

I am 19 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half, and we been living together for about a year. I'm not sure yet if I am pregnant but I have a pretty good idea that I am, I know I will be able to raise a baby, and me and my boyfriend are in a stable relationship. I was just wondering what some people's thoughts are?

Tralyn · Aug 14, 2008, 04:26 PM

I'm curious why you are asking? Are you unsure yourself? If you aren't then other's thoughts really shouldn't matter : ), know what I'm saying? If you are able to unconditionally love your child and you two are able to provide for your child and are in a safe and healthy environment I think you have the perfect ingredients! :)

ylaira · Aug 14, 2008, 04:30 PM

If youthink you can handle it then ignore what people say. They are just expressing their opinions because of the trend on being a mother at an early age . A lot will later realized that "this" shouldn't happened yet. At 19, fun still starts. Having a responsibility places that fun in the backburner. Always remember, have a stable job and save!

trying4babykirk · Aug 14, 2008, 05:39 PM

If your happy with the choices you have made... BE HAPPY, CELEBRATE! The people that really matter should not judge you! Who cares what everybody else thinks!!

J_9 · Aug 14, 2008, 05:44 PM

If you mean are you "physically" too young to have a baby, the answer is no, you are not.

Are you emotionally ready? Well, that is a question we really cannot answer. You have to look inside yourself to know if you are ready for this lifetime commitment to both baby and the boyfriend.

Sunnywootxp · Aug 14, 2008, 06:14 PM

19... I think it a bit young having kids at age 19 could effect your education,money or family. Well I think you should be with your boyfriend a longer then start having kids my opinion a year and a half isn't enough. Probably you can wait until 21 or so , so you can have a clear mind on what you do. :)

Good Luck <(o.O<)

J_9 · Aug 14, 2008, 07:10 PM

I will say that I had my first as 22, I was married for 2 years at the time, and we had the money, etc...

Looking back, I was still too young. Now, don't get me wrong, I don't regret it for a second. But due to stresses of being so young our relationship faltered 2 years later, after our second son as born.

I had my third child and 26 and my fourth at 38, with my second husband. I must say that with the third child I was so much more prepared, physically, mentally and emotionally.

Tralyn · Aug 14, 2008, 08:13 PM

Only you can know my dear, only you can know. There are tons of opinions out there for you on this one, you have to search inside yourself and know what is right for you.

lmangileri · Aug 14, 2008, 08:50 PM

Originally Posted by Sunnywootxp

19....i think it a bit young having kids at age 19 could effect your education,money or family. Well i think you should be with your boyfriend a longer then start having kids my opinion a year and a half isn't enough. Probably you can wait until 21 or so , so you can have a clear mind on what you do. :)

Good Luck <(o.O<)

This answer sounds kind of funny. He's telling you to wait till you're 21 or so but if you're already pregnant this doesn't really help you. It just kind of makes me laugh.

I don't think you're too young if you can support your child. Not everyone matures at the same rate. I know some people that are younger and have kids with their husbands or boyfriends and they're doing great, and then I know people that are older that I just can't imagine they would ever be responsible enough to raise children. It really depends on the situation but it sounds like you're going to be just fine. =)

nickeknew · Aug 14, 2008, 08:54 PM

I would say as long as your physically ready and willing to make the commitment id say your not 2 young

DoulaLC · Aug 15, 2008, 03:27 PM

Depends on the person... some are "too young" at 28.
If you are already pregnant, do what you can to prepare yourself to be the best mother that you can. Look for traits in others that you feel do a good job of it... find a role model in a mother that you admire. Learn about infant/child development so that you have some background knowledge going into it, and do what you can to prepare yourself financially as well. Surround yourself with people who will build your confidence, offer guidance and support, and cheer you on!
If you aren't pregnant... consider what things you may want to accomplish first... and also what traits you feel a "good" mother would have. When you get closer to making that decision, do what you can to be that sort of mother. Too many people just wing it, and don't take it seriously, and it shows... the apple often really doesn't fall far from the tree.

simoneaugie · Aug 15, 2008, 04:02 PM

I'd make a list of the pros and cons. Just so that you know that you have thought it through. Your boyfriend should make a list too, then talk about your lists together. Having a child is a big deal! However, it is not a bad deal. Just know, and communicate about everything from family support to diapers to what type of school to the joy of sleep deprivation to having to put your couple's relationship on the back burner.