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cesar99 · Oct 19, 2009, 02:55 PM

I really need help on this issue. Me and my ex dated for over 2 years and we have a daughter together. She ended up leaving me for someone else and I'm still having a hard time getting over her. I love her to death and everything I've tried so far has failed me. Recently she broke up with her current boyfriend and told me that she wanted to get back with me. Well we end up going out and then later end up having sex together which I feel like was a huge mistake. Then a day later she tells me she is getting back with her other boyfriend. I don't know what to do this hurts me really bad. I'm tired of getting lied to and hurt. HELP! :(

lol smiley face · Oct 19, 2009, 03:08 PM

I have seen this many times I know it hurts and I know its hard to get over it but why did she leave in the first place? And what's so special about the other person? Maybe you start over and make what's best for you or think about the happy times when you were together and the love you shared I'm pretty sure she's thinking about you as much as you are thinking about her... always have a smile on your face and always be positive:)

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emopunk7 · Oct 19, 2009, 04:01 PM

Why did she leave in the first place?
How old are you both?
Either way, she is no good to you. You need to avoid her for the rest of your life if that possible but I doubt that with a baby involved. So how do you both deal with the baby situation? Give us more information please. Thank you.

cesar99 · Oct 19, 2009, 05:16 PM

Ya I'd be nice if I could just avoid her for the rest of my life that would make it a lot easier. But its got to be more complicated than that if I want to be able to spend time with my daughter. So I try to stay friends with her. She pretty much told me she didn't know if I was the one she wanted to be with when we split up. It's been about 7 months since our initial break up. But I love her with all my heart and she told me she loves me. Yet she hurts me and lies to me. Then proceeds to tell me that we could still be real close friends aka bed buddies but that's not what I want.

Cat1864 · Oct 19, 2009, 05:25 PM

You need to let her go and keep you interactions with her down to your daughter's needs including visitation, doctor visits, etc.

I don't think she will ever make up her mind unless someone (aka: you) takes one of her choices away. Right now her behavior is not helping any of the adults or your child. Don't allow yourself to be part of the mess she is making.

Let yourself heal before you move on to another relationship.

talaniman · Oct 19, 2009, 10:35 PM

Sorry for your situation, and sorry I see no future happiness with her either, so focus on being a really good dad, and be civil with her for that reason only... your child together.

Forget being friends, or even bed buddies, as I honestly don't think she is worth it. Dude she has played some funky stuff on you to get her way, and I doubt seriously if you think you deserve it. I don't think so.

cesar99 · Oct 20, 2009, 03:13 AM

The worst part is that I was pretty much completely healed of not being with her from our initial break up. Then she pulls this stunt on me giving me high hopes only to burn me :(. I already know she is going to regret it all one of these days. But it still hurts that she could do this to me.