[skatercat21]

One of my closest girlfriends and I are very close considering we have only really talked to each other for a little over a year. She means a lot to me and I know that I mean a lot to her she tells me all the time. The problem is that I am veryyyyyyy sensitive one little thing she says can throw my entire brain into an imagination of a worst case scenario where she gets tired of me and decides that she doesn't love me anymore. I have spent hours crying during situations like this and the part that hurts me the most is that she NEVER gets upset about it she explains that she still loves me unconditionally and I believe her and I forgive her immediately but then a couple weeks later the same thing happens. I find that I am jealous of pretty much everyone who talks to her (especially this guy she likes, but can't go out with because she is Christian) I miss her constantly whenever she isn't around, and my entire life seems to depend on when I get to see her again. I am really sick of this heartache but sometimes when it stops I feel really weird and I get sad because I'm scared I don't love her anymore. I just want us to be BFF forever but without the jealousy and the heartache which I know she doesn't share. Her heartache is obviously for this guy who just went off to college. What should I do?? Is this a crush? Because if it is I'm a lesbian right I'm soooooooo frustrated because this has been happening since about February :(:(:(

[Enigma1999]

Hello skatercat21,

I am glad that your headline read as "I am jealous" instead of am I jealous? Yes, it's sounds as if you are just a little jealous to be quite frank. My question to you is, do you have any other friends? It is clear to me that you are infatuated with this person. No, I don't believe that this makes you a lesbian. Also how old are you?

[skatercat21]

Yes I have a lot of other friends they are all wonderful and I have talked to some of them about this. They are all very understanding and if it wasn't for them I would be in a much worse place. One of them is actually the daughter of a minister so she knows a lot about relationships. I am 15. I guess I'm also worried that this infatuation is going to lead to us not being friends anymore (Im constantly worried that she's going to get freaked out(she hasn't yet though and she really seems to enjoy the attention)) One of the really immature things I've tried is getting mad at her (idk how she puts up with me, but she does) but that obviously never helps because then I'm miserable either because I don't really want to be mad @ her or it just feels weird to not love her anymore:(

[talaniman]

I think your sensitive, and insecure, and way to attached to your friend. It seems Your to needy of this one person to the point you play games to keep her attention. You really need to back up and deal with your feelings in a much more positive way, like activities that don't include her.

Be a real friend, not a needy one, by letting go of some of your insecurities, and let her do her thing too, without you.