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Froshie · Oct 14, 2009, 07:13 AM

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years coming this October 27th. He says that he loves me, but is not sure if he is IN love with me. As of now we are still together, we get along so well, we laugh, help each other out whenever we need too, and when we go out we still have so much fun despite recent talks. What makes me frustrated is that him an I rarely, if ever, fight. If we ever have, they have been the healthy type of fights that a relationship requires. I love him dearly, and I know he loves me still but he is confused as to what he wants. I know he still loves me because he'll do little things and tell me he loves my sweet tender kisses (hah), call me frequently sometimes, he'll hug me suddenly and tell me he loves me, loves it when I sleep over and we cuddle all night long, etc. He is 22 and I am 21, and although I know that normally High school romances don't last, we went to different High Schools and live in different towns. He is not sure if he wants to explore with others or continue having a premanent relationship. Since our anniversary is coming I asked if he wanted to have a break before then, but he said no, that he wanted to celebrate our anniversary and do something special (which we are, going away for a whole weekend together just him and I). I'm confused and not 100% sure on what to do. I hate having this butterfly feeling in my stomach occasionally not knowing what he wants or what's going to happen. I think we'll end up taking a break after our anniversary (although I hope he realizes before then) but I know time away from your significant other to make them realize how much they miss you (and so they can't sort things out) is the right thing to do, it's just so hard. Uggg I hate this :[ I know I didn't really ask a question but any advice given, or stories told would help a great deal.

talaniman · Oct 14, 2009, 07:26 AM

Lol, of course your confused, as to where you stand, and what's going to happen in this relationship. That's normal given your ages, and time together. Don't over think it though, or assume how he feels, but you both need to talk, and plan, and define, the course that you both want. The talking and listening to each other will help reassure you, or reveal what you both want, from each other.

Froshie · Oct 14, 2009, 07:31 AM

I forgot to mention that he also said that he didn't want to take a break because he wanted to work on things first, to see if we can work on this without taking a break. Taking a breka he said would be the last thing he would want to do.

talaniman · Oct 14, 2009, 07:39 AM

Communications are so important. That's where you learn if you can work through this, or not.

I wish · Oct 14, 2009, 10:48 AM

It's a good sign when he says that he doesn't want a break and wants to try to work it out. That means he's willing to put the effort.

You definitely need to sit down with him. List out each of your problems/concerns and try to work things out.

Communication is key, but you should also work as a team. You're in this together.