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    jerylowt Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Sep 25, 2009, 02:06 AM
    What would I choose my family or my boyfriend who will die if I will go far away from
    Well, for me in my situation I really don't know how or what is to decide, actually.
    I will travel 6 hours from our home just to go to the place where I can be able to see my boyfriend. My boyfriend keeps on begging me not to leave him or just stay on this place. He don't want me to go far. One time I went to our home and wasn't able to go back to my boyfriend place it takes a week after I go back here and guess what he became thin and I asked him what's wrong why he became so thin then he never answer me until time came that my friend told me that the reason why he became thin its because he cannot eat because he missed me a lot.and one more thing is that my parents want me to stay to our home because its so expensive to live in the city by the way I live in a province. Give me some advice.. thnk you
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    Sep 25, 2009, 05:44 AM
    You can't be with your boyfriend because you are scared of his well-being. It's for him to take care of himself. If you're going to be with him, make sure that's what you actually want.

    As for your parents, it depends how old you are and whether you are working. Can you find a job and earn enough income to financially support yourself? If you can and you're over 18, then you can move out and do your own thing. But if you're under 18 and don't have a job, then you live by your parents' rules.
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    Sep 25, 2009, 09:26 AM

    You need to decide how your going to live your life, but be aware that your boyfriend may not have a very healthy love as he neglects himself when your not there. That's a real red flag for you to think about, and TALK to him about. There may be something about him you don't know but need to.

    Are you ready to leave home and support yourself? Seems not if your parents are paying for your transportation back and forth.
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    Sep 25, 2009, 11:47 AM

    I think it sounds as if he has an unhealthy way of relating to you: begging you not to go is one thing, but not eating when you're not there is just not good...

    You shouldn't stay with him based on his health or the way he is acting. You haven't said that much about him or his behaviour towards you, but I d get the feeling that he is a bit on the needy side.

    How old are you by the way?

    Do you have a job or do you go to school?

    How old is he?

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