[mxpx45]

OK, firstly let me give you a little history. (The problem is at the bottom if you don't want to read) Me and this girl met at a show where we saw our favorite band. It started as an AIM relationship but then she started calling and we started hanging out. She would always randomly text but one day she went to visit a "guy" friend in cali. This was before we dated so everything was cool. WHen she was there she was calling me wondering why she went. I bought her a teddy bear and left it in her room for when she came back. We started dateing 3 or 4 days later.

She got to where we would talk all the time, sometimes I thought too much. I mean 10,000 minutes on the cell phone (Good thing we both have tmobile). Everything was going well but I noticed she was talking to that cali guy too much. I made her tell him we where dating (She was trying to hide it at first). She slowly stopped talking to him but slowly stopped sending me those random text.

I moved off to summer camp to work and everything was going great. WE even took a little weeek long trip together the week before. Well I got so busy I couldn't call for hrs a day like she was used to. While I was at camp she started tralking to this online guy again. She also sent naked pictures to this other online guy but I was fine with that because I knew she would never meet this guy. He was old and married. The week I came home from summer camp she said she was going with her dad to a conference. I found out she went to cali so I broke up with her. She called days later saying sorry and that she won't ever do it again and that no sex was involved.

Well summercamps over we are both in school. She was always really sad at night because she missed me and I worked nights. She would call crying. One day she started hanging out with this other guy and suddenly dumped me. But we remained great friends. That guy only lasted three days but we never really started dateing again. She said she needs someone to cuddle with.

***NOW AND PROBLEM (if you want to skip the rest)

Well for the past months she has been calling me during her lunch break and breaks at school (While I sleep and I have never asked her to call) and I always answer and talk to her. I call her from work at night. Well last night I sent her a text and said "Hows school going" she replied with "STFU". We actually where even planning a trip for christmas just last week. She has been very worried about school and hasn't slept much because she isn't doing well in school and has problems with H/W. I replied with "whats wrong" and she got super pissed and said she didn't want to call me anymore and told me not to take off for the trip. The day before she was saying "I love you" even few hrs before she said it even though we are just friends. SHe didn't call last night or any today and she rejected all my calls so I just gave up. After one call she sent a text "Busy Baby TTYL" and last night she said "I just dont wanna talk to anyone right now, its not you i promise just give me a few days". What should I do? She usually hits her period at this time of the month so she may be super PMSING but she has never done that. It may be the stress buidling up. I did get her to answer one text this morning and I asked "Is it me, do you still love me?" and she replied "You just dont know when to mind your own buisness, and yes i do kinda but not as much" I called right after that and that was when she said "Busy baby ttyl" and I just left her alone after that (been 24 hrs now not 1 text or call from her). Its not like I call her too much, she calls me. Here are the only things I can come up with

1.) She is PMSING
2.) She is tired because she hasn't slept much and just needs time
3.) She has found someone else but she has always told me about the guys she dates
4.) Stress from doing bad in school


We are just friends but she is a great friend that I love. We have fun talking. What should I do? And what does it look like is going on to you guys/girls. Maybe she felt we where getting to close?

[Krs]

Too much baggage already in this kind of relationship.
My honest advice would be move on.
She did certain things that I would not accept in a relationship, such as sending naked pictures of herself to a married man...

How old is this girl?

[mxpx45]

20, she is a really good friend though and that's all I want. Every time I hear my favorite band I think of her. And why would a girl turn against someone in a matter of 2 hrs? Maybe she is telling the truth and just doesn't want anyone to talk to her maybe she isn't

I don't want to lose a friend if she is just super stressed or Pmsing.

And if everyone else's advice is the same how do I get over her? Especially if she starts calling again or comeing over again.

[Krs]

Listen I'm a girl - I PMS too, but I don't things in such a bad way like she is...

She seems confused more than anything.

Give her space, let her call you, and keep it on a friendly basis and nothing more.

[mxpx45]

Cool that's what I am going to do and have been doing! Thanks

Any other advice anyone

P.S. one thing that confused me though is she once said "When a girl says dont call that means she needs you so u better call her"

By the way she didn't visit that guy or send the naked pics while pms, and its been months since that

[mxpx45]

I found out the answer. I have been praying the last two days for a sign. I got that sign today in the form of a 5 min voicemail and I know it was from god because my phone didn't ring and had 4 bars. It was of the mentioned girl having sex, somehow she hit the speedial

Now! New question

How to get over her? I work nights as a seecurity guard so I work alone. During the day I am fine but not at nights, it really hurts. I have tried buying new NDS games, and renting movies. None of my friends are awake that late either

[Krs]

P.S. one thing that confused me though is she once said "When a girl says dont call that means she needs you so u better call her"

btw she didnt visit that guy or send the naked pics while pms, and its been months since that

A girl should be straight forward, I am, what's the point in beating round bush... She should say CALL ME, if she really wants you to call her. You can't read her mind.

Whether she was PMSing or not... its not excuse to send naked pics of a married man... STOP making excuses for her. :rolleyes:

[mxpx45]

Well today I have been ignoring her pretty much even though she has called 8 or 9 times and texted a lot trying to say "We are just fooling around thats all, i dont like him like that" but I haven't been answering

[Krs]

YOu don't need a girl like that, she will just cause you more pain...
Sod her, and move on just like you are, and keep on ignoring her calls and texts that way you will get to to her more.

I knew she wasn't worthed from the start

[talaniman]

A classic case for NO CONTACT at all.

[J_9]

Man, she's just messing with your head and if you keep contact it's going to get worse.

Drop her like a dirty dishrag, find someone who is healthy.