[dahlialine]

He likes me and I am starting to like him back. He always talks about how attracted he is to me, and how much he wants us to be together. He constantly tries to see me every chance we get and everything has been going great until this past week.

I"m not sure exactly what's going on, but out of nowhere he is acting very strange. He says he is trying to figure things out for himself and once he does he will let me know what it is. I asked if he wants me to leave him alone he says I could if i want to, but he doesn't want me to.
I've been giving him space, we haven't been talking nearly as much as we usually do. But when we do he is always so sad and distant.

I have a feeling his hard past is making him feel that he wouldn't be able to make me happy. He's said things like "don't choose to be unhappy". He is very insecure and has low self-esteem.

I don't know what to do. I keep asking him to talk to me about it but he avoids it. I feel like it'd be annoying to keep asking..
But I don't know if I should just leave him alone. He always talks about how he hates feeling alone and wants company..

Just last week he was acting like he was so interested in me, now all of a sudden.. would anyone just turn off their feelings like that and leave?
What should I do now? What's going on?

[none12345]

I wouldn't want to be with someone that second guess me. Its just me though. Give him space, the ball is in his court now but if something better comes along, don't be afraid to go for it.

[HellHound82]

Maybe he feels rejected and is avoiding you to avoid being hurt, have you told him how u feel yet? If not maybe you should. When a guy tells you he just wants you to be happy it roughly translates to "i dont know if u feel like i do and dont want to be rejected, so you tell me if you realy want this"

[redhed35]

Why would you want to be with someone who is jerking you around?

He sounds needy... and blowing hot and cold.

Cut him loose.

This guy wants a mammy not a girlfriend..


Don't waste your time waiting on him to make up his mind,get out and meet someone who can make a decision and has the confidence to see it through,let him get on with his insecurities on his own!

[talaniman]

Just because he is having trouble processing his feelings, don't take it personally, just pay attention, and give him space, to do what he has to.

[Cat1864]

I just read your other posts. It seems to me that you have a history of getting involved with men with self-esteem problems. (Or is this the same man?)

I would suggest that you take a step back and let him deal with his inner demons while you look at what attracts you to this type of man.

In my experience, women who get involved with men who need constant attention and seem to have no relationships outside of theirs are looking for someone to take care of (call it mothering instinct if you want) or are flattered by the attention and using it to build up their own self-esteem.