[Faithisbetter]

My fiancé and I have been dating now for three years and have known each other for close to five, everything about our relationship has been perfect when we were physically together unfortunately we've been forced to spend a good deal of time apart, after about a year's time of not seeing each other but still talking our relationship had obviously grown pretty cold and we both started seeing things we didn't like on one hand she would spend lots of time with friends and making me feel like I was being placed in the back seat, and on top of that there was another guy constantly botherring her, our conversation time kept getting shorter and shorter between work and college and so I started feeling as though she was on a totally different page and I closed up and I know it was one of the worst ways to behave but at the moment it's as though I was blinded by my emotions, I treated her badly and after a spat in which she confessed to me that she had been comparring me to another guy I became enfuriated and threatened to end our relationship something I can't regret enough, a few weeks ago she stopped taking my phone calls and answerring my emails I was in so much pain because all the while I'd been trying to mend my mistake, yesterday I flew in to see her and went to her workplace, and at first she was receptive and let me caress her skin but then she totally closed up on me and started blaming me for what had happened, wouldn't let me come near her, I love her with all my heart and I don't want anyone else in my life, I've been fighting this losing battle for about a month now and I don't know what to do, on one hand I'm looking on the bright side since she told me she still had some feelings for me, but she took of her promise ring and is wearring another ring but on a different hand, she also hesitated when I asked her about another guy, I asked her twice and the first time she said well no but with a pause, I don't want to loose what we have , what can I do??

[none12345]

Time to cut your lost and move on. I know you don't want to but its something you got to do. Can't chase her forever.

[Romefalls19]

You said it right the first time, you're fighting a losing battle. It's time to admit defeat, walk away and save your pride. Your first mistake was to keep calling her, that screams "needy and desperate" and then you flew in to see her, which she was then hot and cold and turned it into a blaming match. Don't you think you deserve better?

By the way, I don't think you were wrong for getting upset about being compared to another guy she was spending her time with. I'd be angry too, but you need to control your temper a little better

[spoilsport]

Give her some time and space. Let her talk if she wants to. Be sensitive to her and if she calls or mails reply decently. Good luck!

[amicon]

The penny has to drop.This is a losing battle -find your selfrespect and leave this alone.Make this decision for your own good then start to build yourself up again.

[I wish]

You've already made several attempts to reconcile. So she already knows how you feel.

However, you have to remember that it takes both people invovled to make a relationship work. So you've done your part, now the ball is on her court. You're just going to have to wait and see if she's going to reciprocate the effort.

In the meantime, I suggest that you start moving on with your life. If she comes back to you, then great. But if she doesn't, then at least you will be in a better position to heal from this break up.