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    vipriya Posts: 12, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 2, 2008, 01:55 AM
    I want to mend all his pains I gave him
    Believe me I know that I am wrong... that's why I am regretting so much for the mistake... I want to heal all his painsi gave him.. I don't want to loose him dear... I know its all happeing because of my stupidity... there is not even a small ray of light which can help me to get back to him... I have learned lesson from my mistake... help me I cannot live without him... I am having sleepless nights... I am afraid that I don't take any wrong step... I just see him everywhere... feel him everywhere... there is not a single place where I didn't went out with him... wherever I go I feel his presence... even when I sleep I just see him... help me to get back to him... I relly love him... I want to be with him... regretting badly for the mistake...
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    Nov 2, 2008, 02:02 AM

    Well firstly what was your mistake?
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    Nov 2, 2008, 06:07 AM

    The only thing I can tell from this is that you cheated on him? Am I right?. You have to elaborate on this for us.

    I also want to point out that there is NOTHING you can do to relieve his pain. This is something he has to get over on his own. He is the victim, not you. Don't think for one second your feeling bad and guilty does anything for him. Leave him alone for awhile. The only thing you can do is genuinely apologize... let life takes its course from there.
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    Nov 3, 2008, 02:15 AM

    My mistake was I went out to the party with my friend... were I recently met him were me and my cousins were out for the vacation... he was just a friend nothing else... I told about this friend to my guy... he collected some news about this guy and said me that this guy is not good.. you better stay away from him... my boyfriend is too possessive about me.. he always had a problem if I make any new guy friends... just to make him understand that being too possessive is not good... I carried out a friendship with that guy... one day we had a really big fight... without telling him I went to party with him... he asked me for it... that night I had a liqiuor and got high... after party was over we had no place to stay in the night and I was high also... that's he parked a car in some lane...
    I was sleeping in my seat and he was sleeping at drivers seat... I really don't know what happened.. we started kissing each other.. nothing went beyond this... next day I told to my boyfriend... that I went out to the party with him... he got really angry... I decided to tell him the whole thing... but seeing him so restless I decided to hide from him... he asked me so many times... about the truth but I use to lie him... I had to keep contacts with that guy... because my boyfriend can use so many means to take out the truth... then me and that guy had to plan things to hide from my boyfriend... things went fine... everything was over and I was no more in contact with that guy... but again after a long time my boyfriend asked me about this thing... then I finally decided I cannot lie him anymore.. so I accepted the truth... that's why he is really broken... I want to mend all his pain I gave him... I know I did wrong to him... now I understood he being so possessive about me was his love for me... and I have always mistaken... I have got an lesson... I really love him... now understood what's right and wrong... help me guys... I really love him... cannot stay without him like this anyymore... I will go crazy... I really apolozise more than thousand times in my evry breath to him.. I love him...
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    Nov 3, 2008, 09:33 AM

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    Learn to live without him as after the fact is to late.
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    Nov 3, 2008, 09:53 AM

    I think the old saying "You made your bed so sleep in it" Drugs and liquor, such a great excuse to blame on you doing dumb sh*t. You don't accept responibility for anything, you still blame him for making you go to that party. It's over, there is nothing you can do to get his forgiveness.
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    Nov 3, 2008, 11:10 AM

    Ohh Drop the. (As the world Turns drama Crap)

    Where do you read all this stuff from... my love my world.. Bah!

    You have about 95.000 posts about the same thing!

    Are you going to keep on posting untill you read a REPLY you like??

    Listen its not going to happen
    Becaue you keep saying

    It was not my fault it was drinks and drugs
    Which might I add. Would give your boyfriend perfect reason to worrie over you..


    Yeah you did a mistake

    But like we have all said
    You Can Not WIN TRUST BACK!! There is No Way To Make him come back to YOU... Do you understand????

    Now please for all the little teddys in teddy land

    Stop posting the same stuff over and over again.
    Lots of people have replyed to you
    You can use a lot of the info here. To help

    Move on
    And
    Stop drinking
    And Stop Drugs!
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    #8

    Nov 3, 2008, 11:25 AM

    I committed a really big mistake by sleeping with an another guy
    You keep changing your story. In one post you only kissed another guy. The above quote is from another one of your threads, in which you admit to sleeping with another guy.

    You aren't being honest with us, are you being honest with your ex?

    Yes, ex, because he's made it perfectly clear that he doesn't accept your apology, that he can't trust you, and I don't blame him one bit.

    You went to a party, got drunk, got stoned, cheated, and now you're blaming everything and everyone for this mistake, but you aren't truly blaming the only one that is responsible. You.

    You are the only one that can choose your path, you have the power to stay faithful, or to cheat. Are you sorry that you cheated, or sorry that you got caught? Are you remorseful for your actions, or upset that you couldn't get away with it?

    I've said it before and I'll say it again. The ball is in his court. He doesn't have to forgive you, that's his choice and only his.

    You can say your sorry until you're blue in the face. The time to think about how this would hurt him, was when you actually had the chance to avoid hurting him, not after.

    If he forgives you then consider yourself lucky, but don't expect him to forgive you just because you're sorry.

    Get over yourself pity, leave him alone, let him heal, give him the chance to make up his mind about you.

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