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summersunshinee · Sep 13, 2009, 04:39 PM

My boyfirned and I have been dating for two years now, and plan on getting married withi the next year and a half to two years.
I love him dearly, but lately I feel as if he's pulling away.
We hardly have aytime to ourselves as a couple... we both work constantly and much of our free time is spet doing homework or catching up on sleep.
I'm wondering if the reason he's pulling away is because we can't spend a lot of time together?
We're planning a trip to Northern California in November, and I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions on romantic things for us to do.
It's going to be so nice to be able to sped some quailty, much needed one on one time with each other... and I want to make sure that our trip is memorable.
We're thinking about going to the Red Wood forest.

Any places or sights to see would be great! :)

Thank you all!

paxe · Sep 13, 2009, 07:12 PM

How old are you? It is sometimes normal to feel like that, relationship is very demanding in term of work. The trip itself is a good idea, but anything that is out of the usual or that is extraordinary is excellent for getting closer to him.

summersunshinee · Sep 13, 2009, 08:36 PM

Thank you for your response!
I'm 22, by the way.

paxe · Sep 13, 2009, 08:39 PM

Same age. Just a quick tip, if things go downward like that, most probably it won't get easier with time. I know I was with my ex for 3 years, and it was the usual every day and every weekend. You have to work double and talk to your partner more often about that. Though I do feel you are a bit young to take a decision to get married, there is no pressure for that, take your time.

summersunshinee · Sep 13, 2009, 09:33 PM

Absolutely, we were planning on a long engagement anyway. :)
We were thinking about skydiving... what do you think?

asking · Sep 13, 2009, 09:46 PM

There are lots of things to do in Northern California, where I grew up. Are you going to stay in hotels or motels? Camp? Stay with friends?

Yosemite is really beautiful, but too far as just a day trip. Also beautiful is the Big Sur Coast. You can go to Muir Woods to see redwoods, just north of San Francisco. San Francisco is very romantic. Take the cable car up the Hyde street hill and sit on the outside. Walk on the Golden Gate Bridge and watch tankers go beneath you.

I think you are right to take some time off from work to rekindle the romance. Hope you have fun.

paxe · Sep 14, 2009, 08:21 AM

Yep, skydiving is one of the ultimate activity you can do together, adrenaline goes up and people tend to bound more often during those times. It's science basically, the more "exciting" activities you're going to do the more bounding you are going to become with your mate.

I wish · Sep 14, 2009, 08:30 AM

There are times when both of you are really busy. So instead of worrying about the times that you're not together, treat the times that you are together as extra special.

Focus on building your careers for now. Once you've stabilized your careers, I'm sure it will be easier to spend more quality time together. It's great that the two of you set some time off to go on vacation.

Furthermore, once you get engaged, married and live together, you'll have plenty of time together. So enjoy the space now that you have it!

summersunshinee · Sep 14, 2009, 05:16 PM

Tahnk you all so much for your responses! =)
You've all been great help!