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owen9220 · Nov 4, 2006, 03:53 PM

My wife's mother died earler this year leaving us with lots of many long and emotional problems ,like her son who is now 6 and we are still fighting for custerdy other with her older sister we are winning,but on going away this weakend to to take the 6 year old to stay with his older sister and sort out many of things to do with my wife's mothers death I returned to find my wife being very odd with me I asked her what was the matter and she wouldn't say but when I finally got it out of her she said that she loves me but is not in love with me anymore.we don't spend mutsh time togher because she has 2 jobs and I work fall time to pay for all the dets I have got since her mother died and we paid for every thing and are paying thousends in cort costs is there any adive you can give me please many thanks owen

Fr_Chuck · Nov 4, 2006, 04:01 PM

Of course we also have to ask, why are you fighting over the 6 year old, is one family so bad for him to live at. Is it really worth fighting over that hard. Could not there be some easy solution to theproblem.

And it is really his good everyone is fighting over.
Next time, you know how many people use work as an excuse, and if you cna't afford to pay everything, why did you do it,

I have to wonder what all is driving this,

It sounds like perhaps, a new budget that does not require so much work, some couselng to help get closer back together.

And some serious discussion as to what is best for the 6 year old.

J_9 · Nov 4, 2006, 04:10 PM

I agree with the Fr. Here. Maybe try some financial counseling so that you do not have to work so hard.

Also, the story about the 6 year old is quite confusing.

If your mother-in-law died several months ago, your wife is still most likely going through a grieving process.

With the death of her mother, and working 2 jobs, "fighting" for the 6 year old, there is no wonder she is overwhelmed. She has not had time to grieve for the loss of her mother.

Maybe some grief counseling is in order. A group of people who have lost loved ones lately, maybe.

I believe your wife needs some time to focus on her and her loss. It does not seem as if she has had much. Yes, staying busy does help, but she also needs some time to mourn, some time to reflect. It seems as though she is not able to get that right now.

My best advice is to be there for her, love her, and just wait. I know it sounds hard, but many people go through this after losing someone they are close to. I have heard it MANY times. Even been through it myself.