[confused90]

OK... my girlfriend says she loves me but part of her still loves her ex and when they talk on the phone I don't know... she tells me she's talking to her sister but then later she tells me she was tlkin to her ex and telling me they still love each other and sending me the text messages that they sent to each other and reciceved... she says she wants to marry me and move in with me... she can't stay mad at me and she's broken up with me for a night before because she said I'm too good for her because I treat her the right way a girl is suppose to be treated... idk what to do... I love her to death and I always will... help

[caz1961]

Not surprised your confused! Very mixed signals. I think your girlfriend needs to decide what she wants before anything can progress let alone marriage, she seems to be playing with your emotions and quite unstable and at the moment is treating you as an emotional doormat, which she can only do if you let her, you don't say how old you both are but sound quite young. She needs to know that what she is doing is unkind and unacceptable or nothing will change, you could probably do with some time apart even if just to make her see the effects of her behaviour.

[talaniman]

I would leave her alone to make up her own mind. She cannot sit on the fence between two guys, and have you, and you can't let her put you on hold.

This has to be her decision, without your influence.

Not to be harsh, but honestly speaking, why let a girl whose words say marriage, and love, but her actions say stay put, in case my ex doesn't take me back, then we can get married?

Did you know that makes you a safe fall back position, for someone who cares more for her ex, than you?

I would disappear from her life, and not look back. Very sorry guy, but I think you have let some intense feeling for this female, stop you from loving yourself, and your to willing to give up your dignity, and self respect, for someone who doesn't love you like you love her.

Disappear.

[overayear]

Man it sounds like you need to let this girl go. She flat out told you she still has feelings for her ex. I don't mean to be harsh but think of how its making you look to her and to him. I wouldn't be surprise if he thinks you and her are a joke and they could possibly making fun of you behind your back. Have more respect for yourself and realize that you don't deserve to be treated this way.