[GoddessJade]

Hello,
I'm seriously confused here, I have been married to my husband for almost 2 years, We have been together for 3 and a half years. At the time of marriage, we were getting along great, My husband had a job, I was pregnant with our son, We have a yours, Mine, Ours kind of family, As far as children go. We have always been a struggling family as far as finances go. After we got married, My husband quit his job. That was in 2008. Its been almost a year now and he still hasn't got another job. He refuses to work, He has some anxiety, Depression issues. He claims he's going to get disability, but yet won't finish the paperwork, or go to the appointments they have scheduled for him, (This is his second time filing). He finally started the paperwork, after I told him I wanted a divorce and asked me for a second chance, So I gave him till the end of the week, Now he's not doing the rest of the paperwork or anything else for that matter. He just started counseling. He has his second appointment on Friday.
My husband is a great guy, overall, He is a sweet guy, Great father, Friend, etc. Im just fed up!
We started having major problems in April of 2009, I had a male online friend, Whom is also married, I would chat with. My husband became extremley jealous of him, Even though he is happily married and lives 2500 miles away. So we would fight and fight about me talking to him, I finally told my friend we could no longer talk because my husband is not comfy with it. So after 4 months of not talking to him at all, no emails nothing. My husband starts his insecurities again and asks me if I have talked to my friend lately, I of course get all upset and defensive, because he doesn't seem to trust me. When I am online, He asks me who I'm talking to, What are we talking about. When I tell him, he claims I'm leaving out bits and pieces of the conversations, When in fact I'm not. Im tired of him accusing me of hiding things from him, I wouldn't do that. Never ever! I have never cheated or anything like that on anyone, let alone him.
I have told him I want a separation so I can try to get my head straight. He has been acting super sweet and "backing" off, Letting me have my freedom, But I'm scared that its going to go right back to square one, Once he gets comfy again. I want to get a divorce and move on. But I'm not sure how to go about this. He claims he has no where to go, I feel guilty kicking him out cause I don't have the heart to see anyone on the streets, especially the father of my child!

Please help me! I need the courage to stand on my own two feet, any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much

Exhausted :(

[N0help4u]

One thing is you need to follow through with threats or he will learn that you are only venting and learn to tune you out.
Can he take the paper work to the therapist and fill it out there. Not that they would help him but that way they could get an idea of how reluctant he is at doing things or it may give him incentive to actually finish it.

He may have some really deep rooted issues that are holding him back from doing anything.

You have to decide if you really want him to leave or if you are going to adjust if he doesn't straighten out. It has to be what you feel works best for you not what is convenient for him

[BlackVY]

I'm not a married man yet, but I believe its too soon for a divorce.

You love this guy and he is the father of your child, so I think you should both to for marriage counseling.

You both need to talk things out and he needs to do what he says he will do. He needs to pick himself up and do the right thing for himself and his family.

I really hope you do no leave him just yet, as I believe you guys could make it through this, just got to put in the effort. Good luck